"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I making excuses not to ask her out?

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I know this topic about dating co-workers has been brought up before...but.

I am 31 and just started a professional civil service job (a career job). I work upstairs and there is this attractive petite brunette (my type) 10 years my junior who works part-time downstairs. It is a rather small atmosphere that has about 25 employees, the majority (75%) being middle aged women.

I am attracted to this girl....(My heart rate increases when I am around her)...however I am torn between two philosophies....

1.) I tend to overanalyze things and it might affect my mental state dating a co-worker

2.) I don't really like people knowing my business

3.) Although I don't really work with this girl, I have a decent amount of contact with the people she works with. If things go sour...it would be awkward.

4.) There are other girls out there (I just have to find them) who are similiar to her in looks who ARE NOT co-workers....

5.) I care about this job, although it is very easy work.


Reasons to ask her out:

1.) You have to take risks in life and could be missing a good opportunity...

2.) I don't get out too much and I don't have much luck at the bars/clubs...



What do you guys think?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Unless your company expressly forbids it, go for it. Hot 21-year-olds are something I don't advocate passing on very often!
 
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