"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Am I in danger of being put in the LBF Zone?

AmIAFC

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Question guys.

This co-worker (I know, I know...) seems to be interested in me, but I can't determine if it's as a friend or a potential romantic interest.

Here's the scoop.

At work, I rarely - if ever - visit her cubicle, but she always seems to try to find ways to visit mine. She's left a few voice messages and a text message on my phone, and I haven't responded once (surprisingly, she doesn't bring it up in person), and she's invited me to go watch a movie at a theatre, plus drinks at a restaurant. We've done the movie and drinks thing before, but I initiated those --- this time, she's invited me to do those this weekend as a "return favor." She's particularly shy around me, though.

Now this is the hard part: Last week, she confessed to being a "player" in school, and she has a few AFCs at work who think they have a serious shot at her, which I doubt.

I'm wondering if she's actually interested in me or if she's trying to figure me out (LBFZ or a hump-buddy?). Am I a LBF case, except in a slightly different situation than the others, or what?

What's the deal?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
 

AmIAFC

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Originally posted by DinoCassanova
Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
I'm not looking for anything serious. I bang her, she stays in her cubicle, I stay in mine; if we run into each other, it's hi, bye, see you later. That simple. I'm definitely not the clingy/jealous type.
 

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Then it sounds like you're money, to use a little Swinger-ism here. You should have it next time you guys go out. Like I said, to me it sounds like she wants you. Put the moves on next time you guys go out alone. She might surprise you with her aggressiveness and passion.

~D
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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you shouldnt' be so concerned with her thoughts on where you are in her mind. Where is she in your mind is whats important. If you want her, my advice, just go for some kino, some simple intimate maneuver, and do it quick. my experience tells me you wait to long and it never happens. You set the pace, if you do it tactfully and she isn't interested, at least you know and then can move on. Sucks not knowing doesn't it?...-dcm
 

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Cubicle in England means Toilet, ha ha so that post just made me laugh quite a bit!

Oh as for her liking you

its quite simple

ask her "Would you like to see my willy?"

Your bound to know straight away if she likes you or not
 

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Thanks, guys. I knew I was doing the right thing. I tapped that tonight.
 
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