"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Am I in danger of being put in the LBF Zone?

AmIAFC

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Question guys.

This co-worker (I know, I know...) seems to be interested in me, but I can't determine if it's as a friend or a potential romantic interest.

Here's the scoop.

At work, I rarely - if ever - visit her cubicle, but she always seems to try to find ways to visit mine. She's left a few voice messages and a text message on my phone, and I haven't responded once (surprisingly, she doesn't bring it up in person), and she's invited me to go watch a movie at a theatre, plus drinks at a restaurant. We've done the movie and drinks thing before, but I initiated those --- this time, she's invited me to do those this weekend as a "return favor." She's particularly shy around me, though.

Now this is the hard part: Last week, she confessed to being a "player" in school, and she has a few AFCs at work who think they have a serious shot at her, which I doubt.

I'm wondering if she's actually interested in me or if she's trying to figure me out (LBFZ or a hump-buddy?). Am I a LBF case, except in a slightly different situation than the others, or what?

What's the deal?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
 

AmIAFC

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Originally posted by DinoCassanova
Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
I'm not looking for anything serious. I bang her, she stays in her cubicle, I stay in mine; if we run into each other, it's hi, bye, see you later. That simple. I'm definitely not the clingy/jealous type.
 

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Then it sounds like you're money, to use a little Swinger-ism here. You should have it next time you guys go out. Like I said, to me it sounds like she wants you. Put the moves on next time you guys go out alone. She might surprise you with her aggressiveness and passion.

~D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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you shouldnt' be so concerned with her thoughts on where you are in her mind. Where is she in your mind is whats important. If you want her, my advice, just go for some kino, some simple intimate maneuver, and do it quick. my experience tells me you wait to long and it never happens. You set the pace, if you do it tactfully and she isn't interested, at least you know and then can move on. Sucks not knowing doesn't it?...-dcm
 

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Cubicle in England means Toilet, ha ha so that post just made me laugh quite a bit!

Oh as for her liking you

its quite simple

ask her "Would you like to see my willy?"

Your bound to know straight away if she likes you or not
 

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Thanks, guys. I knew I was doing the right thing. I tapped that tonight.
 
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