"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Am I in danger of being put in the LBF Zone?

AmIAFC

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Question guys.

This co-worker (I know, I know...) seems to be interested in me, but I can't determine if it's as a friend or a potential romantic interest.

Here's the scoop.

At work, I rarely - if ever - visit her cubicle, but she always seems to try to find ways to visit mine. She's left a few voice messages and a text message on my phone, and I haven't responded once (surprisingly, she doesn't bring it up in person), and she's invited me to go watch a movie at a theatre, plus drinks at a restaurant. We've done the movie and drinks thing before, but I initiated those --- this time, she's invited me to do those this weekend as a "return favor." She's particularly shy around me, though.

Now this is the hard part: Last week, she confessed to being a "player" in school, and she has a few AFCs at work who think they have a serious shot at her, which I doubt.

I'm wondering if she's actually interested in me or if she's trying to figure me out (LBFZ or a hump-buddy?). Am I a LBF case, except in a slightly different situation than the others, or what?

What's the deal?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
 

AmIAFC

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Originally posted by DinoCassanova
Sounds like she wants you.

But are you comfortable w/being with or even doing regularly some chick you work with daily?
I'm not looking for anything serious. I bang her, she stays in her cubicle, I stay in mine; if we run into each other, it's hi, bye, see you later. That simple. I'm definitely not the clingy/jealous type.
 

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Then it sounds like you're money, to use a little Swinger-ism here. You should have it next time you guys go out. Like I said, to me it sounds like she wants you. Put the moves on next time you guys go out alone. She might surprise you with her aggressiveness and passion.

~D
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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you shouldnt' be so concerned with her thoughts on where you are in her mind. Where is she in your mind is whats important. If you want her, my advice, just go for some kino, some simple intimate maneuver, and do it quick. my experience tells me you wait to long and it never happens. You set the pace, if you do it tactfully and she isn't interested, at least you know and then can move on. Sucks not knowing doesn't it?...-dcm
 

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Cubicle in England means Toilet, ha ha so that post just made me laugh quite a bit!

Oh as for her liking you

its quite simple

ask her "Would you like to see my willy?"

Your bound to know straight away if she likes you or not
 

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Thanks, guys. I knew I was doing the right thing. I tapped that tonight.
 
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