"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Am I handling this girl correctly?

the_stig

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Been involved with her for about two months, she isn't an AW in that she seeks male attention, but is self centered and likes to talk about herself, constant facebook updates, texts often, etc. My method so far has been to give her attention in moderation. We click so I have no problems charming or making her smile, but I remain aloof by not always being available and not answering all texts. For example we sent a few fun texts this afternoon, but I quit responding when she left a response open ended to leave her wanting more. She texted again 45 minutes later with "My hair is getting long and I <3 it. Random I know", looking for attention or to get me texting again and I didn't respond to that either. I usually dont respond on Fri/Sat nights if i'm out.

She found out me and my buddies were hanging out with some girls last weekend, and wants to see me Fri and Sat as it's her only weekend off for a while. I agreed to Friday. I noticed on her facebook there might be another guy pursuing, but he's the type that's always replying to her status updates, trying to please her. I never post on her FB and hardly use mine. She doesn't seem gaga for him, but should I be worried she might fall for a guy who is always fawning her with attention like that, or should I keep doing what i'm doing?
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Damian

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You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
 

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Damian said:
You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
We hang out fairly often, mainly once per week on average, sometimes twice. Half the time i'll sleep over and leave in the morning for work. We're always physical.
 

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Dude just play THE GAME. Don't let yourself caught in an a$$-kissing contest with the competition.

Remember: You don't have any competition. It doesn't exist. It's about you and her.
 

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Keep doing what you're doing. In fact once you start hitting it on the regular get off FB...I'd recommend it anyway.

Then, she'll have her physical needs(fix) met with you and her attention needs met by the chumps on Facebook.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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