Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Am I handling this girl correctly?

the_stig

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Been involved with her for about two months, she isn't an AW in that she seeks male attention, but is self centered and likes to talk about herself, constant facebook updates, texts often, etc. My method so far has been to give her attention in moderation. We click so I have no problems charming or making her smile, but I remain aloof by not always being available and not answering all texts. For example we sent a few fun texts this afternoon, but I quit responding when she left a response open ended to leave her wanting more. She texted again 45 minutes later with "My hair is getting long and I <3 it. Random I know", looking for attention or to get me texting again and I didn't respond to that either. I usually dont respond on Fri/Sat nights if i'm out.

She found out me and my buddies were hanging out with some girls last weekend, and wants to see me Fri and Sat as it's her only weekend off for a while. I agreed to Friday. I noticed on her facebook there might be another guy pursuing, but he's the type that's always replying to her status updates, trying to please her. I never post on her FB and hardly use mine. She doesn't seem gaga for him, but should I be worried she might fall for a guy who is always fawning her with attention like that, or should I keep doing what i'm doing?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Damian

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You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
 

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Damian said:
You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
We hang out fairly often, mainly once per week on average, sometimes twice. Half the time i'll sleep over and leave in the morning for work. We're always physical.
 

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Dude just play THE GAME. Don't let yourself caught in an a$$-kissing contest with the competition.

Remember: You don't have any competition. It doesn't exist. It's about you and her.
 

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Keep doing what you're doing. In fact once you start hitting it on the regular get off FB...I'd recommend it anyway.

Then, she'll have her physical needs(fix) met with you and her attention needs met by the chumps on Facebook.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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