"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Am I handling this girl correctly?

the_stig

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Been involved with her for about two months, she isn't an AW in that she seeks male attention, but is self centered and likes to talk about herself, constant facebook updates, texts often, etc. My method so far has been to give her attention in moderation. We click so I have no problems charming or making her smile, but I remain aloof by not always being available and not answering all texts. For example we sent a few fun texts this afternoon, but I quit responding when she left a response open ended to leave her wanting more. She texted again 45 minutes later with "My hair is getting long and I <3 it. Random I know", looking for attention or to get me texting again and I didn't respond to that either. I usually dont respond on Fri/Sat nights if i'm out.

She found out me and my buddies were hanging out with some girls last weekend, and wants to see me Fri and Sat as it's her only weekend off for a while. I agreed to Friday. I noticed on her facebook there might be another guy pursuing, but he's the type that's always replying to her status updates, trying to please her. I never post on her FB and hardly use mine. She doesn't seem gaga for him, but should I be worried she might fall for a guy who is always fawning her with attention like that, or should I keep doing what i'm doing?
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Damian

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You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
 

the_stig

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Damian said:
You need to get face-time with this girl. Physical contact is always the trump card. If you can get face-time with her and actually attract her with your charms, it doesn't matter what some idiot is doing on facebook. It's a charmless, riskless endeavor, therefore you get little to no credit from messaging somebody on facebook unless you're using it to create tension.
We hang out fairly often, mainly once per week on average, sometimes twice. Half the time i'll sleep over and leave in the morning for work. We're always physical.
 

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Dude just play THE GAME. Don't let yourself caught in an a$$-kissing contest with the competition.

Remember: You don't have any competition. It doesn't exist. It's about you and her.
 

disgustipated

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Keep doing what you're doing. In fact once you start hitting it on the regular get off FB...I'd recommend it anyway.

Then, she'll have her physical needs(fix) met with you and her attention needs met by the chumps on Facebook.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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