It's a lot easier for girls to get dates because guys do the approaching. Us men it's not as easy. Many of us work a lot, etc, long commutes and such. Just don't get a chance to get out much or go places to meet them when working 50 hours a week and other stuff.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Am I doing Bumble wrong? Give me tips! I'm shutout.
- Thread starter biggoal
- Start date
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's the lame-mess excuse I've often hear.
Men who worked long hours were fvcking around when there was no OLD apps in the 60's, 70's, 80's and 90's. Fact and cannot be disputed.
RickTheToad
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No one ever said the truth was an easy thing to understand and/or accept. It's hard for a lot of people to accept. It's just part of life.