"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Am I being too judgmental?

Dynamited

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Hey guys

I have been casually dating this girl for a few months. Amongst my other plates, i find that the chemistry is best with this one.

We have discussed past relationships before but not in detail till a few nights ago.

A few things about her that really triggered my red flag radar

1. Past relationships were with colleagues
2. 'Emotionally' cheated on an ex with another
3. Had an affair with a married man for 6 months.
4. Friends with a few of her exes

I felt that the ones that really hit hard was 2, 3. Had to read up on what emotional cheating and it still does involve doing stuff behind your partner's back.

I had to keep a level head when she was telling me about the affair. She said that the guy made her a better person after her break up and was caring, blah blah. Was close to saying something out of anger but held back. This incident also brought her back to church as she had to forgive herself.

I understand that I'm feeling this way as i have some level of attraction for her. But I also do know that I have to be level headed about this before it progresses any further.

My take is I have to end it here, emotionally at least as I do find it hard to be in a serious relationship with someone who has put herself in such situations before and whose moral compass is somewhat lacking.

Would like to hear from you guys if I'm making the right call here?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Hey guys

I have been casually dating this girl for a few months. Amongst my other plates, i find that the chemistry is best with this one.

We have discussed past relationships before but not in detail till a few nights ago.

A few things about her that really triggered my red flag radar

1. Past relationships were with colleagues
2. 'Emotionally' cheated on an ex with another
3. Had an affair with a married man for 6 months.
4. Friends with a few of her exes

I felt that the ones that really hit hard was 2, 3. Had to read up on what emotional cheating and it still does involve doing stuff behind your partner's back.

I had to keep a level head when she was telling me about the affair. She said that the guy made her a better person after her break up and was caring, blah blah. Was close to saying something out of anger but held back. This incident also brought her back to church as she had to forgive herself.

I understand that I'm feeling this way as i have some level of attraction for her. But I also do know that I have to be level headed about this before it progresses any further.

My take is I have to end it here, emotionally at least as I do find it hard to be in a serious relationship with someone who has put herself in such situations before and whose moral compass is somewhat lacking.

Would like to hear from you guys if I'm making the right call here?
Are you being judgmental? Yes. Are you wrong for doing so? **** no. This woman CLEARLY does not value intimacy very much except on the physical level. Any sane man would remember this stuff about her to be more wary of her accords.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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A little unreliable. Fun to fvck, bad ltr material
Enjoy it while it last s.
 
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