"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Am I being too judgmental?

Dynamited

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Hey guys

I have been casually dating this girl for a few months. Amongst my other plates, i find that the chemistry is best with this one.

We have discussed past relationships before but not in detail till a few nights ago.

A few things about her that really triggered my red flag radar

1. Past relationships were with colleagues
2. 'Emotionally' cheated on an ex with another
3. Had an affair with a married man for 6 months.
4. Friends with a few of her exes

I felt that the ones that really hit hard was 2, 3. Had to read up on what emotional cheating and it still does involve doing stuff behind your partner's back.

I had to keep a level head when she was telling me about the affair. She said that the guy made her a better person after her break up and was caring, blah blah. Was close to saying something out of anger but held back. This incident also brought her back to church as she had to forgive herself.

I understand that I'm feeling this way as i have some level of attraction for her. But I also do know that I have to be level headed about this before it progresses any further.

My take is I have to end it here, emotionally at least as I do find it hard to be in a serious relationship with someone who has put herself in such situations before and whose moral compass is somewhat lacking.

Would like to hear from you guys if I'm making the right call here?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ImTheDoubleGreatest!

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Hey guys

I have been casually dating this girl for a few months. Amongst my other plates, i find that the chemistry is best with this one.

We have discussed past relationships before but not in detail till a few nights ago.

A few things about her that really triggered my red flag radar

1. Past relationships were with colleagues
2. 'Emotionally' cheated on an ex with another
3. Had an affair with a married man for 6 months.
4. Friends with a few of her exes

I felt that the ones that really hit hard was 2, 3. Had to read up on what emotional cheating and it still does involve doing stuff behind your partner's back.

I had to keep a level head when she was telling me about the affair. She said that the guy made her a better person after her break up and was caring, blah blah. Was close to saying something out of anger but held back. This incident also brought her back to church as she had to forgive herself.

I understand that I'm feeling this way as i have some level of attraction for her. But I also do know that I have to be level headed about this before it progresses any further.

My take is I have to end it here, emotionally at least as I do find it hard to be in a serious relationship with someone who has put herself in such situations before and whose moral compass is somewhat lacking.

Would like to hear from you guys if I'm making the right call here?
Are you being judgmental? Yes. Are you wrong for doing so? **** no. This woman CLEARLY does not value intimacy very much except on the physical level. Any sane man would remember this stuff about her to be more wary of her accords.
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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A little unreliable. Fun to fvck, bad ltr material
Enjoy it while it last s.
 
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