"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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am i being stalked?

dentalfloss

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anyone have experience with this?
-at the beginning of this semester i walked into my first class and this hb9 stares at me, like long into my eyes, but it was sort of creepy, she's also in 2 of my other classes. i don't talk to her for probably the first month, she continues to stare from across the room or where-ever
-i got into a car accident early in the first semester and had to write down directions to the body shop, i wrote them down on the first page of my accounting binder, she shows up there, apparently her ex let some drunk crash her car (strange huh?)
-one day she just blurts out "(my name), do you have a highlighter?", at this point i had never introduced myself, but they are small classes and maybe she just overheard my name
-we eventually start talking, and i think i'd be an idiot to let this gorgeous girl slip thru my hands, so i ask her out, she flakes, i NEXT but continue to sit beside her just to be friends, she continues to do the shy girl touching thing with her elbow and stuff like that
-i swear to god she was masturbating in class next to me one day, either that or she had to pee real bad
-semester end nears, we study together and whatnot, she'll play footsies with me under the table (at this point, i simply assume she's a crazy b!tch)
-i learn that over summer we both went camping together at the exact same camp ground/time, i can't say i ever remember meeting her or seeing her, but it was a massive place
-we talk about courses next semester and we find out each others classes, i know she has a 5 course load and none of them are my classes...i walk into business ethics today and there she is...it is an odd class, 1 course section, night class, and she's staring at me from across the class
-there are a couple other times when she'd show up at school when i'd least expect it, but it would be safe to guess i was there

so am i crazy and this is all just coincidences, or is she crazy and should i be afraid?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I look at this seeing two viewpoints. She flirted with you (footies), yet the random apperences are strange.

Keep updating with interaction, I can't put my thumb on it, but it does feel strange. Try talking to her, even act overly AFC on purpose to see if she lays off.

There's just something nagging me about this...
 

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I don't think she's stalking you. However, I'd say that she probably likes you, and is making 5hit up so she has something in common with you.

Or she could be doing all that because she's an AW.
 

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where in canada are you from?

calgarian myself

edit: des: she has also started conversations with me based on stuff she's overheard from me talking with other people

i also asked her out another time and also got the shaft, so it made me assume she's an AW, but her appearing in my class started to get me worried
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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be ****y funny... Straight up ask her if she is stalking you with a smile on your face.

C/F: Hey are you stalking me? I mean if you like me then why didn't you just go out on those dates? Tell her you might be willing to give her one last chance, but she must earn it.

Be bold. Straight up ask in a C/F way if she is trying to get with you but to shy to do anything about it.

You don't have anything to lose.
 

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Are you stalking me? Because that would be excellent.

-van wilder
 

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well...i'm officially scared...i just checked the online roster for my class that she was in, and she's not on it...
 
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