"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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am i being stalked?

dentalfloss

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anyone have experience with this?
-at the beginning of this semester i walked into my first class and this hb9 stares at me, like long into my eyes, but it was sort of creepy, she's also in 2 of my other classes. i don't talk to her for probably the first month, she continues to stare from across the room or where-ever
-i got into a car accident early in the first semester and had to write down directions to the body shop, i wrote them down on the first page of my accounting binder, she shows up there, apparently her ex let some drunk crash her car (strange huh?)
-one day she just blurts out "(my name), do you have a highlighter?", at this point i had never introduced myself, but they are small classes and maybe she just overheard my name
-we eventually start talking, and i think i'd be an idiot to let this gorgeous girl slip thru my hands, so i ask her out, she flakes, i NEXT but continue to sit beside her just to be friends, she continues to do the shy girl touching thing with her elbow and stuff like that
-i swear to god she was masturbating in class next to me one day, either that or she had to pee real bad
-semester end nears, we study together and whatnot, she'll play footsies with me under the table (at this point, i simply assume she's a crazy b!tch)
-i learn that over summer we both went camping together at the exact same camp ground/time, i can't say i ever remember meeting her or seeing her, but it was a massive place
-we talk about courses next semester and we find out each others classes, i know she has a 5 course load and none of them are my classes...i walk into business ethics today and there she is...it is an odd class, 1 course section, night class, and she's staring at me from across the class
-there are a couple other times when she'd show up at school when i'd least expect it, but it would be safe to guess i was there

so am i crazy and this is all just coincidences, or is she crazy and should i be afraid?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I look at this seeing two viewpoints. She flirted with you (footies), yet the random apperences are strange.

Keep updating with interaction, I can't put my thumb on it, but it does feel strange. Try talking to her, even act overly AFC on purpose to see if she lays off.

There's just something nagging me about this...
 

Desdinova

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I don't think she's stalking you. However, I'd say that she probably likes you, and is making 5hit up so she has something in common with you.

Or she could be doing all that because she's an AW.
 

dentalfloss

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where in canada are you from?

calgarian myself

edit: des: she has also started conversations with me based on stuff she's overheard from me talking with other people

i also asked her out another time and also got the shaft, so it made me assume she's an AW, but her appearing in my class started to get me worried
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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be ****y funny... Straight up ask her if she is stalking you with a smile on your face.

C/F: Hey are you stalking me? I mean if you like me then why didn't you just go out on those dates? Tell her you might be willing to give her one last chance, but she must earn it.

Be bold. Straight up ask in a C/F way if she is trying to get with you but to shy to do anything about it.

You don't have anything to lose.
 

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Are you stalking me? Because that would be excellent.

-van wilder
 

dentalfloss

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well...i'm officially scared...i just checked the online roster for my class that she was in, and she's not on it...
 
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