"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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am I a stalker?

chad2k5

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It turns out my oneitis's dad lives across the street from me (small world, huh?) and I'm always looking out my window to see if her car's there and she's visiting. well like I do almost everyday, I peaked out and she happened to be there walking to the house. I ran as quick as I could for my camera. I forget how much the zoom is, but it gets close. so I slowly pulled the blinds up just a little so I could get the lens in, and snapped a few shots. She kinda rejected me 4 years ago and I haven't seen her since.

I'm a normal person but I guess in a way this is kind of weird?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You look out your window everyday in hopes your oneitis from FOUR years ago is across the street? Then you grab your camera and take paparazzi style pictures?

Very normal. You'll be thawing this chick from your freezer in no time.
 

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I wouldn't say it's normal per se, but it's not really hurting anybody either. If your desire to do this sort of stuff escalates to where you're considering doing other, more serious stuff, you should look into talking to somebody about it. But for now, you're good.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Obey Propaganda said:
You look out your window everyday in hopes your oneitis from FOUR years ago is across the street? Then you grab your camera and take paparazzi style pictures?

Very normal. You'll be thawing this chick from your freezer in no time.

Muahahahaha! I remember 6 years ago, i took the bus to the other side of town,and for several weeks i took paparazzi style pictures of the cutest girl of the whole school, but on the last night i did, she caught me by her window taking a picture of her playing Ape Escape on PlayStation because i stupidly put my camera on flash. She saw me, yelled, and knew who i was because i had chemistry class with her, well long story short, her older varsity football brother came out and he made me feel terror i have never felt before. I felt like dangerous, like a creature of the night when i would take pictures of her all the time, but i learned my lesson at the police station, you can be tried as a sexual offender if your not careful. Don't do it!
 

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cuz what I was thinking about doing is next time I see her, I'd run out back to my driveway and get in my car, turn down the street and have "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol blaring.
 

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cuz what I was thinking about doing is next time I see her, I'd run out back to my driveway and get in my car, turn down the street and have "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol blaring.
Have Rockstar by n.E.R.D blaring! If i was in your shoes, i would do that! It makes you look cool in front of the honeys!
 

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Don't blast any song. Just approach her. Show your new changed DJ personality. if you have one :D
 

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Her Dad lives across the street? If you were smart, you'd get to know him better. Act mature around him, be respectful, even kiss his ass a little. Remember, he doesn't know you. And she doesn't know that you know him. Develop a friendship with him. Sooner or later, she will find out. Whether it's coming over and seeing you with him, or him casually mentioning something about "the guy across the street". And if you're real cool with him, he will mention you, trust me. Once she finds out it's you, she WILL ask her Dad about you. And he'll speak highly of you based on his interactions with you. She didn't know you knew who her Dad was, and that's what's going to impress her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Well all stalkers have got to start some where lol, ur inner game is ****ed my friend thats what u got to work on. Stop thinking about this girl and waiting around for her, think about urself and move on.

ps. read the dj bible, if u have already...read it again. Good luck dude.
 

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if this isn't a troll then i have seen it all...holy **** son get some help
 

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Snowman23 said:
Oh c'mon Desert Fox, little dramatic are we?
dude this is weird abnormal behavior lol. but you're right it's not the weirdest ****in thing i've seen...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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We have a tendency to enjoy emotional attachments because it reinforces positive chemical changes in our biology.

You are getting this by performing these actions. Now, you are trying to justify it using ethics or morality.

I pose this question: if a girl did that to you and you found out, how would you feel toward her?

I would not be scared but I would definitely not be attracted to her either.

That should be all the 'morality' you need, I hope.
 

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update:

she was over at her Dad's again. I waited till she got in her car, then I ran out back and jumped in mine. I tailed her for about 2 miles (I don't think she noticed). She jumped on the freeway and that's when I turned back. Do you guys think she has a boyfriend? I'm hoping she's single, cuz what are the chances of a family member of hers living across the street? I think it's meant to be. I think I'm gonna run into her and be like "oh wow, how've you been?" etc, ya know making it look I didn't know anything.

thoughts, suggestions?

thanks
 

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You need to make your move so you can get over her. Go up to her and talk to her then tell her you want to take her out some time. Plan a fun date. If she says no, then just forget about her and continue to film her if it gets you off, lol, but emotionally dettach yourself from her. She's really not as important as you are making her out to be. You need to grow up a bit, son.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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