"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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chad2k5

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It turns out my oneitis's dad lives across the street from me (small world, huh?) and I'm always looking out my window to see if her car's there and she's visiting. well like I do almost everyday, I peaked out and she happened to be there walking to the house. I ran as quick as I could for my camera. I forget how much the zoom is, but it gets close. so I slowly pulled the blinds up just a little so I could get the lens in, and snapped a few shots. She kinda rejected me 4 years ago and I haven't seen her since.

I'm a normal person but I guess in a way this is kind of weird?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You look out your window everyday in hopes your oneitis from FOUR years ago is across the street? Then you grab your camera and take paparazzi style pictures?

Very normal. You'll be thawing this chick from your freezer in no time.
 

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I wouldn't say it's normal per se, but it's not really hurting anybody either. If your desire to do this sort of stuff escalates to where you're considering doing other, more serious stuff, you should look into talking to somebody about it. But for now, you're good.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obey Propaganda said:
You look out your window everyday in hopes your oneitis from FOUR years ago is across the street? Then you grab your camera and take paparazzi style pictures?

Very normal. You'll be thawing this chick from your freezer in no time.

Muahahahaha! I remember 6 years ago, i took the bus to the other side of town,and for several weeks i took paparazzi style pictures of the cutest girl of the whole school, but on the last night i did, she caught me by her window taking a picture of her playing Ape Escape on PlayStation because i stupidly put my camera on flash. She saw me, yelled, and knew who i was because i had chemistry class with her, well long story short, her older varsity football brother came out and he made me feel terror i have never felt before. I felt like dangerous, like a creature of the night when i would take pictures of her all the time, but i learned my lesson at the police station, you can be tried as a sexual offender if your not careful. Don't do it!
 

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cuz what I was thinking about doing is next time I see her, I'd run out back to my driveway and get in my car, turn down the street and have "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol blaring.
 

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cuz what I was thinking about doing is next time I see her, I'd run out back to my driveway and get in my car, turn down the street and have "Chasing Cars" by Snow Patrol blaring.
Have Rockstar by n.E.R.D blaring! If i was in your shoes, i would do that! It makes you look cool in front of the honeys!
 

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Don't blast any song. Just approach her. Show your new changed DJ personality. if you have one :D
 

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Her Dad lives across the street? If you were smart, you'd get to know him better. Act mature around him, be respectful, even kiss his ass a little. Remember, he doesn't know you. And she doesn't know that you know him. Develop a friendship with him. Sooner or later, she will find out. Whether it's coming over and seeing you with him, or him casually mentioning something about "the guy across the street". And if you're real cool with him, he will mention you, trust me. Once she finds out it's you, she WILL ask her Dad about you. And he'll speak highly of you based on his interactions with you. She didn't know you knew who her Dad was, and that's what's going to impress her.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well all stalkers have got to start some where lol, ur inner game is ****ed my friend thats what u got to work on. Stop thinking about this girl and waiting around for her, think about urself and move on.

ps. read the dj bible, if u have already...read it again. Good luck dude.
 

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if this isn't a troll then i have seen it all...holy **** son get some help
 

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Snowman23 said:
Oh c'mon Desert Fox, little dramatic are we?
dude this is weird abnormal behavior lol. but you're right it's not the weirdest ****in thing i've seen...
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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We have a tendency to enjoy emotional attachments because it reinforces positive chemical changes in our biology.

You are getting this by performing these actions. Now, you are trying to justify it using ethics or morality.

I pose this question: if a girl did that to you and you found out, how would you feel toward her?

I would not be scared but I would definitely not be attracted to her either.

That should be all the 'morality' you need, I hope.
 

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update:

she was over at her Dad's again. I waited till she got in her car, then I ran out back and jumped in mine. I tailed her for about 2 miles (I don't think she noticed). She jumped on the freeway and that's when I turned back. Do you guys think she has a boyfriend? I'm hoping she's single, cuz what are the chances of a family member of hers living across the street? I think it's meant to be. I think I'm gonna run into her and be like "oh wow, how've you been?" etc, ya know making it look I didn't know anything.

thoughts, suggestions?

thanks
 

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You need to make your move so you can get over her. Go up to her and talk to her then tell her you want to take her out some time. Plan a fun date. If she says no, then just forget about her and continue to film her if it gets you off, lol, but emotionally dettach yourself from her. She's really not as important as you are making her out to be. You need to grow up a bit, son.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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