"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So, Im banging this 20 year old uni student (im 29), since a month ago, once a week.

Im always able to bang her, but we dont text between dates. The only time we do, is when I invite her to the date (and then she textes a lot).

What makes this weird is that if I dont initiate, she doesn t. But she always wants to **** me and even hangs out with me and her girlfriends (i assume she at least likes my **** :))

Obviously both of us know that this is a fwb relationship.

Some insights on this?

Cheers
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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marmel75

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I don't understand what the problem is. This is exactly how a Fvck Buddy relationship works. No contact other than when you contact her to fvck.

You say its strictly a FWB relationship, but then wonder why she isn't acting like a woman who is your girlfriend or trying to be your girlfriend. Is there something I'm missing here?

She has a perfect handle on the what the relationship is, you don't.
 

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Sounds like a good relationship to me....F uck and no hassle.....Keep it up as long as possible.
 

Young OG

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I don't understand what the problem is. This is exactly how a Fvck Buddy relationship works. No contact other than when you contact her to fvck.

You say its strictly a FWB relationship, but then wonder why she isn't acting like a woman who is your girlfriend or trying to be your girlfriend. Is there something I'm missing here?

She has a perfect handle on the what the relationship is, you don't.
I was thinking the same thing lol
 

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OP, if I always had to initiate and then wasn't getting poon then I would be concerned and eventually I would stop initiating.. But sense you are getting poon I have to agree with the other guys, I don't think there is a problem here. Keep it status quo for as long as possible.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Agree, but I think the OP is wondering why she's not initiating... after all she does like the sex or intimacy or attention or whatever. Why would she wait if she found him hot?
All FBs I had did initiate at least sporadically.
 

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^ true....
I'd be curious at least 1% because if she's really busy like that....maybe she's on the carousel and call me crazy but I love to be inside them physically and emotionally spiritually in their souls
 

G_Govan

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You're developing LTR feelings, not a good place to be with a FB who isnt.

Ignore it and spin multiple plates. As long as she's game enjoy it.
 

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This is the exact same relationship I have with my girl. I spent all night last night banging her and probably won't talk to her for a week. That's how women are. She won't say "hey wanna come over and bang my brains out". You've got a sweet deal my friend, keep enjoying the ride.
 

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My primary plate is the same way--definitely a bit of an adjustment at first (especially given that 3 or 4 years ago I flat out refused to initiate and let girls come to me). But I think something like this is actually a healthier set up.

On her end it filters out needy men who need constant reassurance (at least, that's one thing my plate complained about the first time we met). It indicates self control and self-assurance (this girl isn't going to text you so often that she ends up losing attraction or press you about why you didn't text her back). On your end, you're passing her **** test just by doing nothing but texting her when you feel like texting her. At the end of day, compliance is the only thing that matters. Everything else is just show. If she'll jump when you say jump, why does it matter if she doesn't overtly communicate how much she wants to jump for you?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She's busy suckin the other sausages textin her
 
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