This maybe natural for some but after women coming out of the woodwork post lockdown pandemic, I've noticed the ones that freely hug are the ones that will have potential. I've always given hugs on first dates pre-corona but hesitated somewhat after. It maybe common sense but at first I was hesitant during my first couple dates post lockdown or giving half ass hugs when I see them just to not freak them out. Now I do it as a test and always hug them when I first meet them and see how they react(IDGAF attitude). That pretty much sets the tone and you can pretty much expect how the date will go. Obviously, if she's already wearing a mask when she meets you in public, that's a no go right there.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ALWAYS hug her on a first date, even during Corona...
- Thread starter Lookatu
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Focal core
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 21, 2017
- Messages
- 1,533
- Reaction score
- 1,203
- Age
- 45
Nahh im just zipping my D out on the first date, they hug that very well with her lips.
MrAddiction
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 2, 2016
- Messages
- 371
- Reaction score
- 222
- Age
- 47
Wait ....are you serious? You are wearing pants when you go on a date? ;-))))
Ourdays: wearing a mask is absolutely sufficiant. ;-)
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
logicallefty
Moderator
If I like a woman I will kiss her mid first date, then hold hands for the rest of the date. Covid what? What's that?
Exactly and the same here but her being receptive to a hug is where it starts when you first meet her. Like one date, gal didn't wanna hug and freaked out a little. After a half hour, I made some lame excuse and dropped her off. Saved me a lot of time.
user252009
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Oct 15, 2019
- Messages
- 733
- Reaction score
- 342
good call
Focal core
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 21, 2017
- Messages
- 1,533
- Reaction score
- 1,203
- Age
- 45
I did exactly that, and they just ate my D.