This maybe natural for some but after women coming out of the woodwork post lockdown pandemic, I've noticed the ones that freely hug are the ones that will have potential. I've always given hugs on first dates pre-corona but hesitated somewhat after. It maybe common sense but at first I was hesitant during my first couple dates post lockdown or giving half ass hugs when I see them just to not freak them out. Now I do it as a test and always hug them when I first meet them and see how they react(IDGAF attitude). That pretty much sets the tone and you can pretty much expect how the date will go. Obviously, if she's already wearing a mask when she meets you in public, that's a no go right there.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
ALWAYS hug her on a first date, even during Corona...
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Focal core
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Nahh im just zipping my D out on the first date, they hug that very well with her lips.
MrAddiction
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Wait ....are you serious? You are wearing pants when you go on a date? ;-))))
Ourdays: wearing a mask is absolutely sufficiant. ;-)
wifehunter
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
logicallefty
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If I like a woman I will kiss her mid first date, then hold hands for the rest of the date. Covid what? What's that?
Exactly and the same here but her being receptive to a hug is where it starts when you first meet her. Like one date, gal didn't wanna hug and freaked out a little. After a half hour, I made some lame excuse and dropped her off. Saved me a lot of time.
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good call
Focal core
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I did exactly that, and they just ate my D.