"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Always a leader?

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Have a question guys. Not particularly about girls, but about being a leader (and that brings us to a DJ, which is a leader when it comes to realitionships).

Are you (the DJ's :p) also leaders in other social intercourse? Like with your friends, that you always have to say where to go when you go out, or what to do. Stuff like that?

I see it by myself, i'm still not a real DJ, but i figured out that I'm always the one who has to organise things when i'm with friends. Is this a good thing? Or should someone only be a leader when he's with a girl?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by Levrone
Have a question guys. Not particularly about girls, but about being a leader (and that brings us to a DJ, which is a leader when it comes to realitionships).

Are you (the DJ's :p) also leaders in other social intercourse? Like with your friends, that you always have to say where to go when you go out, or what to do. Stuff like that?

I see it by myself, i'm still not a real DJ, but i figured out that I'm always the one who has to organise things when i'm with friends. Is this a good thing? Or should someone only be a leader when he's with a girl?
Being a leader is a phrase that CANT be used in a bad context, IMO.






Unless we're talking gangbangs and the such...:p
 

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don't think of it as a leader. think of it more as a take charge man. If you see something going down the toobes, because of the incompetence of others, grab it by the horns and take charge...

it should be part of your entire life

Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
 

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Originally posted by spider_007
Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
Its why Kobe will never be Mike Jordan...:crackup:
 

Levrone

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Originally posted by spider_007
don't think of it as a leader. think of it more as a take charge man. If you see something going down the toobes, because of the incompetence of others, grab it by the horns and take charge...

it should be part of your entire life

Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
Oke, but whats the difference between a "take a charge man" and a leader in your opinion?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It very much depends on who I'm with.

Amongst my main drinking buddies, were all equal, as we all have similar attitudes to life and like to drink and have fun.

With almost everyone else, yes I'm the one whos in charge. I try not to be though, as I like other people to have initiative. That way I get to do more things.
 

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Originally posted by Levrone
Oke, but whats the difference between a "take a charge man" and a leader in your opinion?
A good leader focuses on the greater good in most situations. A leader listens to his followers and acts with wisdom. And a leader knows when there are sacrifices to be made.
 
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