"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Have a question guys. Not particularly about girls, but about being a leader (and that brings us to a DJ, which is a leader when it comes to realitionships).

Are you (the DJ's :p) also leaders in other social intercourse? Like with your friends, that you always have to say where to go when you go out, or what to do. Stuff like that?

I see it by myself, i'm still not a real DJ, but i figured out that I'm always the one who has to organise things when i'm with friends. Is this a good thing? Or should someone only be a leader when he's with a girl?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Levrone
Have a question guys. Not particularly about girls, but about being a leader (and that brings us to a DJ, which is a leader when it comes to realitionships).

Are you (the DJ's :p) also leaders in other social intercourse? Like with your friends, that you always have to say where to go when you go out, or what to do. Stuff like that?

I see it by myself, i'm still not a real DJ, but i figured out that I'm always the one who has to organise things when i'm with friends. Is this a good thing? Or should someone only be a leader when he's with a girl?
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Being a leader is a phrase that CANT be used in a bad context, IMO.






Unless we're talking gangbangs and the such...:p
 
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don't think of it as a leader. think of it more as a take charge man. If you see something going down the toobes, because of the incompetence of others, grab it by the horns and take charge...

it should be part of your entire life

Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
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Its why Kobe will never be Mike Jordan...:crackup:
 
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Originally posted by spider_007
don't think of it as a leader. think of it more as a take charge man. If you see something going down the toobes, because of the incompetence of others, grab it by the horns and take charge...

it should be part of your entire life

Oh and, as long as you know how to shut up and listen. It's a big part of it too.
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Oke, but whats the difference between a "take a charge man" and a leader in your opinion?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It very much depends on who I'm with.

Amongst my main drinking buddies, were all equal, as we all have similar attitudes to life and like to drink and have fun.

With almost everyone else, yes I'm the one whos in charge. I try not to be though, as I like other people to have initiative. That way I get to do more things.
 
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Originally posted by Levrone
Oke, but whats the difference between a "take a charge man" and a leader in your opinion?
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A good leader focuses on the greater good in most situations. A leader listens to his followers and acts with wisdom. And a leader knows when there are sacrifices to be made.
 
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