"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alterego?

SoulStarMan

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Here's the thing, I kinda find it difficult improving my game. Something thats kinda been coming to me, thinking about some musicians and singers saying how when they're performing they have an alter ego, is maybe I should I try this?
Give myself an alterego when I go out.
Good idea/bad idea?

I'm gonna try it when I head out this weekend.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Obsidian

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That's basically what all of us do, or at least did.

Aristotle said that you become virtuous (eg: courageous) by repetitiously acting in a virtuous matter even when you don't feel like being virtuous. Eventually if you do enough brave things even when you're feeling wussy, you'll become brave.

So eventually the alterego will probably take over if you do it enough.
 

LA_Chico

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The Shocker

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Nobody is ONE single way, we are all essentially shapeshifters. All of us are more comfortable with some personas than others, the best socializers are the ones who are comfortable with various personas.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BlackJackal

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In practice I say it's good. It could help go beyond your usual self. I see it as a step to control your destiny, instead of just making sure you stay exactly the same person for everyone elses entertainment.
 

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Found out that too much ****y and funny is bad?.. at least from what happened to me..

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