"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Alterego?

SoulStarMan

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Here's the thing, I kinda find it difficult improving my game. Something thats kinda been coming to me, thinking about some musicians and singers saying how when they're performing they have an alter ego, is maybe I should I try this?
Give myself an alterego when I go out.
Good idea/bad idea?

I'm gonna try it when I head out this weekend.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Obsidian

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That's basically what all of us do, or at least did.

Aristotle said that you become virtuous (eg: courageous) by repetitiously acting in a virtuous matter even when you don't feel like being virtuous. Eventually if you do enough brave things even when you're feeling wussy, you'll become brave.

So eventually the alterego will probably take over if you do it enough.
 

LA_Chico

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The Shocker

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Nobody is ONE single way, we are all essentially shapeshifters. All of us are more comfortable with some personas than others, the best socializers are the ones who are comfortable with various personas.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BlackJackal

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In practice I say it's good. It could help go beyond your usual self. I see it as a step to control your destiny, instead of just making sure you stay exactly the same person for everyone elses entertainment.
 

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Found out that too much ****y and funny is bad?.. at least from what happened to me..

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