Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Alright so what does confidence really mean?

Caldus

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When it comes to attracting women, what does a girl mean when she says that she looks for confidence in a man? I hear it all the time but I don't really know what they mean by it. Because I am confident in myself but don't ever get women so I must be missing whatever their definition is. What's confidence really mean here in this context?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Originally posted by Caldus
When it comes to attracting women, what does a girl mean when she says that she looks for confidence in a man? I hear it all the time but I don't really know what they mean by it. Because I am confident in myself but don't ever get women so I must be missing whatever their definition is. What's confidence really mean here in this context?
When you dont _supplicate_, dont hesitate much about decisions - thats a minimum.
 

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Confidence is being resolved in your actions, believing what you're doing is the "right" way to go, trusting the instincts and knowledge you've developed throughout your life instead of looking to others for approval...and knowing that if you do something that gets you into a tight spot, you can handle it.

Basically, self-enablement and resolve.
 

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That definition gives me confidence just looking at it. Question for ya- how do you keep from losing it once you have it? I've had a girlfriend suck the life outta me.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Originally posted by ANaTural
That definition gives me confidence just looking at it. Question for ya- how do you keep from losing it once you have it? I've had a girlfriend suck the life outta me.
No, she didn't suck it out of you. You GAVE it all to her and she walked away with it.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
No, she didn't suck it out of you. You GAVE it all to her and she walked away with it.
Nice.
 

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Nice? Hardly lol

Ouch. I need a couple of good smacks, but naw that ain't the story. I broke it off cause she was disrespectful in her tone and I wouldn't let her get away wid kissin some dewd.

But how do u keep from 'givin it all away' as you say. The only way I've ever been able to do that is stayin single and NEXT'n em if they do something I don't like or I get bored.
 

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Confidence is more like a trait. It's internal, stable. It's not something you can give away. So whatever you gave to her, it wasn't confidence.
 

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Confidence:
4. A feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance.
5. The state or quality of being certain: I have every confidence in your ability to succeed.
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Its a choice you make. Being confident is being bold, wise and natural.(suave/charming). -Being confident, is being the person you want to be. So yeah, the girl that robbed you of your dignity was controling you. She owned you. So be the man who every guy wants to be: a man with balls.(and a penis) So take control by the balls, and be "the man." (I promise you will then succeed with woman.)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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don't bother answering squirrel cause I just got off my ass and did a cold approach to a girl at the tanning salon, damn it was hard but feelin better already about it.

Answers my question of what 2 do once u lose your balls- start from the bottom and work ur arse back up!

word to Beer too
 
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