"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Alright so what does confidence really mean?

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When it comes to attracting women, what does a girl mean when she says that she looks for confidence in a man? I hear it all the time but I don't really know what they mean by it. Because I am confident in myself but don't ever get women so I must be missing whatever their definition is. What's confidence really mean here in this context?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Caldus
When it comes to attracting women, what does a girl mean when she says that she looks for confidence in a man? I hear it all the time but I don't really know what they mean by it. Because I am confident in myself but don't ever get women so I must be missing whatever their definition is. What's confidence really mean here in this context?
When you dont _supplicate_, dont hesitate much about decisions - thats a minimum.
 

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Confidence is being resolved in your actions, believing what you're doing is the "right" way to go, trusting the instincts and knowledge you've developed throughout your life instead of looking to others for approval...and knowing that if you do something that gets you into a tight spot, you can handle it.

Basically, self-enablement and resolve.
 

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That definition gives me confidence just looking at it. Question for ya- how do you keep from losing it once you have it? I've had a girlfriend suck the life outta me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by ANaTural
That definition gives me confidence just looking at it. Question for ya- how do you keep from losing it once you have it? I've had a girlfriend suck the life outta me.
No, she didn't suck it out of you. You GAVE it all to her and she walked away with it.
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
No, she didn't suck it out of you. You GAVE it all to her and she walked away with it.
Nice.
 

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Nice? Hardly lol

Ouch. I need a couple of good smacks, but naw that ain't the story. I broke it off cause she was disrespectful in her tone and I wouldn't let her get away wid kissin some dewd.

But how do u keep from 'givin it all away' as you say. The only way I've ever been able to do that is stayin single and NEXT'n em if they do something I don't like or I get bored.
 

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Confidence is more like a trait. It's internal, stable. It's not something you can give away. So whatever you gave to her, it wasn't confidence.
 

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Confidence:
4. A feeling of assurance, especially of self-assurance.
5. The state or quality of being certain: I have every confidence in your ability to succeed.
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Its a choice you make. Being confident is being bold, wise and natural.(suave/charming). -Being confident, is being the person you want to be. So yeah, the girl that robbed you of your dignity was controling you. She owned you. So be the man who every guy wants to be: a man with balls.(and a penis) So take control by the balls, and be "the man." (I promise you will then succeed with woman.)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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don't bother answering squirrel cause I just got off my ass and did a cold approach to a girl at the tanning salon, damn it was hard but feelin better already about it.

Answers my question of what 2 do once u lose your balls- start from the bottom and work ur arse back up!

word to Beer too
 
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