"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alright help me out..

GearsGod310

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Been banging my friend. We literally started off as just friends. We been talking almost everyday since April. When we started hanging out I never even saw her as a girl I would fvck to be honest. We both told eachother that we were just friends and nothing more. But being drunk around eachother got us to smash the first time lol.
Not to toot my own horn but I'm kinda outta her league. Don't get me wrong she's very pretty just not my type.. too skinny ... But last Saturday was the third time we banged. I banged her 3 times and made her *** 4 times. She gave me some crazy dome. And she said "you're the second guy to ever make me *** and the most that made me *** I want this at least once a week for a year or two" and all I said was "fsho".
But I feel like that friendly vibe we had at first is kinda fading away. And I don't want that. We vibe really well and have a good time when we're together. I'm banging other girls so dropping sex with my friend aint a thing to me. I'm not gonna lie I care about this girl I don't even care if we bang or not I just wanna keep having chill vibes with her cause we connect really well. How tf do I proceed?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It's already the beginning of the end. Even if you manage to keep your friendship platonic, she's still going to push for casual sex every time you hang out. I was in a similar situation, where I valued a girl's friendship and then once we had sex, everything changed. We still had a good friendship, but she always made me feel "obligated" to have sex with her, and I would do it even though I didn't really want to. Nothing worked either. I even got a GF, and she wanted to be the "side chick". She did not care at all.

There's something about having good d!ck game that makes it literally impossible to get rid of women sometimes.

You can try being direct with her, saying you don't want to have sex with her anymore and you value your friendship.. but it's just gonna make her like you even more. A very sh!tty situation indeed.. the beginning of the end.
 

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It's already the beginning of the end. Even if you manage to keep your friendship platonic, she's still going to push for casual sex every time you hang out. I was in a similar situation, where I valued a girl's friendship and then once we had sex, everything changed. We still had a good friendship, but she always made me feel "obligated" to have sex with her, and I would do it even though I didn't really want to. Nothing worked either. I even got a GF, and she wanted to be the "side chick". She did not care at all.

There's something about having good d!ck game that makes it literally impossible to get rid of women sometimes.

You can try being direct with her, saying you don't want to have sex with her anymore and you value your friendship.. but it's just gonna make her like you even more. A very sh!tty situation indeed.. the beginning of the end.
Fvvvvckkk....
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I’ve always heard and read it never works out. This is proof. She’s trying to get you hooked. ‘You’re the first....’ ‘the only...’

If you’re out of her league does that mean you’re lowering your standards for her?
 

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Being friends with women wouldn’t have such a stigma around it if sex was part of the “friendship”. When a woman mentions “being friends” around me that means “you’re never getting sex”
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You sound like a woman. Not gonna lie.
I've read tons of stories identical to this online, but it's always from the female's perspective.
This is the first time I've ever read a story like this directly from a guy.

I never thought I would say this on SoSuave, but I think you might be the only guy on the Internet that enjoys being in the friend zone.
 
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Don't get me wrong she's very pretty just not my type.. too skinny
You're not attracted to pretty, thin women who are fun and like to f*uck?

Ok......

What's your "type?"

I hope you're not like a friend of mine who has 25 criteria a girl must meet 100% before he considers dating her. BTW, he hasn't had a date in 4 years and he's a decent looking guy with $$, house, multiple cars, solid job, SMH.
 
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