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If you can, post some examples on youtube.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What the hell is this guy doing on these forums? Seriously? You might as well say "You are ether born to be good with women or not". Bullsh!t.edmond said:You cannot practice to be a dominant person, you are either born one or not. There is only so much bluff/bullsh#t that you can get away with and only with other non dominant persons.
Makes people feel comfortable in your presence
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Great points, Sin Jester. You can't act like James Bond and get the women he does, it isn't going to work. James Bond just steps off a boat and some super hot woman is there to hit on him as soon as he hits the shore. Newsflash: This happens because that's what the script says will happen. He's a fictional character.SinJester said:Most of this stuff is good, some things I disagree with. With all this acting alpha business be carefull not to be boring. I disagree a lot with 'don't be interested in what people have to say'. Excuse me? Do you want to be likeable and charistmatic or not? Be interested in what people have to say and they will be interested in you. Of course if you mean "Don't be interested in what people think about you" then thats all good.
Really some of this is good but you have to be FUN. It's all well and good being laid back but I would rather be the fun guy. Girls want to have fun. They want a fun guy. You can't do this just by sitting back and looking cool. I don't know how to describe this. Just go out there, don't give a damn what anyone thinks and do whatever it is that makes it so that you are having fun, and then so will she. Be interested in people. Be interesting yourself. Kino. Talk. Lean in if you have to, show a little bit of interest once in awhile. Just don't go overboeard and stay alpha.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Pook said: Habit is all. And he was right with that one. We are defined by our habits and if we make it our habit to act dominant, we become dominant.edmond said:You cannot practice to be a dominant person, you are either born one or not. There is only so much bluff/bullsh#t that you can get away with and only with other non dominant persons.