nismo-4
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If you can, post some examples on youtube.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What the hell is this guy doing on these forums? Seriously? You might as well say "You are ether born to be good with women or not". Bullsh!t.edmond said:You cannot practice to be a dominant person, you are either born one or not. There is only so much bluff/bullsh#t that you can get away with and only with other non dominant persons.
Makes people feel comfortable in your presence
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Great points, Sin Jester. You can't act like James Bond and get the women he does, it isn't going to work. James Bond just steps off a boat and some super hot woman is there to hit on him as soon as he hits the shore. Newsflash: This happens because that's what the script says will happen. He's a fictional character.SinJester said:Most of this stuff is good, some things I disagree with. With all this acting alpha business be carefull not to be boring. I disagree a lot with 'don't be interested in what people have to say'. Excuse me? Do you want to be likeable and charistmatic or not? Be interested in what people have to say and they will be interested in you. Of course if you mean "Don't be interested in what people think about you" then thats all good.
Really some of this is good but you have to be FUN. It's all well and good being laid back but I would rather be the fun guy. Girls want to have fun. They want a fun guy. You can't do this just by sitting back and looking cool. I don't know how to describe this. Just go out there, don't give a damn what anyone thinks and do whatever it is that makes it so that you are having fun, and then so will she. Be interested in people. Be interesting yourself. Kino. Talk. Lean in if you have to, show a little bit of interest once in awhile. Just don't go overboeard and stay alpha.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Pook said: Habit is all. And he was right with that one. We are defined by our habits and if we make it our habit to act dominant, we become dominant.edmond said:You cannot practice to be a dominant person, you are either born one or not. There is only so much bluff/bullsh#t that you can get away with and only with other non dominant persons.