so this girl ju messaged me on myspace becuz im cute. she gave me her number and everything. u know wat, i actined aloof and ****y and funny and she totally got turn around by it. she accused me of bein a player. i kinda makes u think if this aloof stuff really works.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
aloof? ****y funny?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I tried something similar, too. This one chick asked me on facebook: "Do you have a girlfriend and when r u coming back to visit me?"
My reply:
"Well, I have a girlfriend, a mistress, a wife and a booty call girl
. blah blah blah. You´re probably crying your eyes out every night because you miss me so much "
was that ****y and funny?
My reply:
"Well, I have a girlfriend, a mistress, a wife and a booty call girl
. blah blah blah. You´re probably crying your eyes out every night because you miss me so much "was that ****y and funny?
yea, i'd say that was ****y funny. it depends on how she took it though. what'd she say?ChrizZ said:I tried something similar, too. This one chick asked me on facebook: "Do you have a girlfriend and when r u coming back to visit me?"
My reply:
"Well, I have a girlfriend, a mistress, a wife and a booty call girl
was that ****y and funny?
ChrizZ said:
hmm well then, she might not have taken it well. is she didnt take that well then she obviously have low self esteem. maybe u should next her, or wait to see if she responds, she could have jus not be online ina while.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
its cool to be a lil ****y funny but make sure what you say isnt too harsh like the part here
and Raikojo17 what did you say back to her or w/e
might could be over doing itChrizZ said:You´re probably crying your eyes out every night because you miss me so much
and Raikojo17 what did you say back to her or w/e
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Some of you are confused here, thought I should bring this up.
Aloof:
-at a distance, esp. in feeling or interest; apart: They always stood aloof from their classmates.
–adjective 2. reserved or reticent; indifferent; disinterested: Because of his shyness, he had the reputation of being aloof.
****y:
-arrogant; pertly self-assertive; conceited: He walked in with a ****y air.
Funny:
-providing fun; causing amusement or laughter; amusing; comical: a funny remark; a funny person.
-attempting to amuse; facetious: Did you really mean that or were you just being funny?
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Being aloof is entirely different from being ****y & funny.
Aloof:
-at a distance, esp. in feeling or interest; apart: They always stood aloof from their classmates.
–adjective 2. reserved or reticent; indifferent; disinterested: Because of his shyness, he had the reputation of being aloof.
****y:
-arrogant; pertly self-assertive; conceited: He walked in with a ****y air.
Funny:
-providing fun; causing amusement or laughter; amusing; comical: a funny remark; a funny person.
-attempting to amuse; facetious: Did you really mean that or were you just being funny?
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Being aloof is entirely different from being ****y & funny.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
I think you were meaning...apathetic...perhaps even indifferent.
djweses89 said:
ok
her: hey boo boo wats good
me: hey! ummm oh r u?
her: im ****** hers my number ***-***-****. call me sumtime
Me: haha, ok ill call u sumtime when im free
her: wat's so funny? im serious ur cute and i like u.
Me:thanx. yea, lol so am i
her:nevermind u probably a player anyway
so did i do sumtimg wrong?
lol thanx dude. but i meant i was jus actin not interested. being aloof, not crackin jokes at her. i told her i'd call her in a joking way like "yeah right, ill call u *snicker* sure thing", in that way. she thought i was an idiot. i didnt like her, but i was willing to give her a chance, she was turned off by my behavior. maybe she has low selfesteeme.snorida44x said: