"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Almost there. Any ideas?

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thaik2007

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Alright, my confidence is up and I feel good about myself most of the time, but I am so desperate. The desperation is not going to go away until I atleast get a taste of what I want.

There are these two good looking girls who are into me, and I'm into them, but I'm balking at actually asking them out. They are almost always walking with their friends.

I have no problem saying "Hi" when they are alone, but I get nervous when they around their friends. I know they talk about me (in a positive way, I've heard it).

The one I like the most is infatuated with me and I've only taken her order at work. I looked at her in lunch line once and her hand started shaking, she dropped her bread. I don't see her now that I quit.

But I'm scared of success, I think.

Any ideas on how I can make asking one or both of these chicks out? Should I stalk them so I know when they are alone to ask? :) What can I do. I've reached a plateau. I'm so close, but scared, and my frustration is skyrocketing.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DJ_Dork

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you say you are confident - then when I read further you're not.
 

Walk this Way

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Girls love strength in numbers. But you have to make friends with each of her friends, and then go in for the kill. It's MUCH easier.
 
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