"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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almost in a fight... behaved well?

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today i was at a soccer competition and in the last match, things became quite rough. i mean, everyone was protestating against the referee and was insultin' the opposite team. a player of the other team bumped into me and made a foul, by grabbin' me and makin' me go to the floor. i was given the ball back by the referee and i didn't say anything to that guy. suddenly he comes to me and starts telling me i'm not playin' fair. i tell him to shut up, since he's hurtin' everyone in my team. he comes closer to me and i come closer to him, confronting each other. he tells me that he's going to kick my @ss whenever i want. i reply "yeah, whatever u say". we keep arguin' for a little, then we both go away from the field. then, a friend of mine who knows that guy to be a trouble-maker, tells me to go away with him, not to be @ss-kicked by him. i tell him that everything's alright and if he wants problems i'm there for him. then that guy calls me into a room and i go there and i tell him that if he wants to fight, i'm ready, although i know he's going to kick my @ss (i'm 130lbs, 5'9, while he's 6'4, 190lbs, maybe more, even though he's 2 years older than me).

then we clarify and everyone goes by his own way, but he's still angry.

i hardly doubt i'm going to have problems with that guy again, but i wanted to know if i behaved the right way... i don't know, it just seems to me that i've been quite a coward since i didn't punch him... tell me what u think
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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He wanted to start **** then he should've thrown a punch.

He's a ***** who needs someone to hit him to get him going.


That said, you should have knocked him on his ass.
 

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baha.. you're from italy right?

the land where soccer players take a dive when you look at them....hahahahha
 

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for 7 virtues: tell me how the hell could i kick his ass, if he's 50lbs and 20cm more than me... it's impossible

for centaurion: i didn't know we had this reputation as soccer players:) where ya from anyway?
 

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Size has little to do with it unless you start grappling.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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what does grappling mean? (sorry, but i'm not english talker). anyway size has a lot to do, when u never played martial arts or boxe... i don't see anyway i could bring to the floor someone who weights 50lbs (25 kgs) more than me... think about it, i could do whatever i want, but how could i make him go to the floor? plus, the top of my head barely reaches the base of his neck, so it's hard to punch him too... no way man
 

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Grappling: grabbing or wrestling with your opponent. The opposite of striking (kicking and punching).

I have seen some damn small guys take on huge mammoths of men and win. With no martial art experience.

Of course if you're afraid of losing then you'll never win.
 

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i don't give a sh1t about winning or losing, i'm just realistic... i realize that he can bring me to the floor with just one hand... not that it bothers me, but it's so
 
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