Almost got busted by one of my girls by not being smart about clues

[Prepostereax]

water seeks it's own level

if one starts to lie and gaslight, one will end up with people who do likewise..

It's perfectly okay for your woman to not know the whole, unadulterated truth - that would be detrimental for most of us, and a little mystery goes a long way - but they don't like being misled.

This is what "being yourself" is about, (good) women don't like lies.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Even in non-exclusive situations, women generally expect men to be sexually monogamous while still having options they consciously choose not to exercise. This expectation os the basic premise of “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups, while forums like this one advise men to be vague and share minimal information to maintain perceived value. I have shared some links below.

A “plate” is a woman a man sleeps with more than once, knowing just enough about her life to schedule encounters. Men may also learn select personal details to help her rationalize the arrangement if she feels uneasy. Otherwise, it’s simple: she gets what she wants, he gets what he wants; something temporary, low-maintenance, and physical.

With this in mind, many men misunderstand outcome independence, assuming it allows pursuing multiple women without consequences. If a woman believe they’re in exclusive relationships and the man is sleeping with other women, that’s not plates, it’s cheating. However, I’m not the morality police.

In my experience, few women will accept an arrangement where a man is seeing other women after two to three months of a non-exclusive relationship—especially once they begin catching feelings.

letting plates know you have other plates?

Say you have a plate that you are interested in converting into ltr, but she has a varying IL and you get the vibe she's taking you for granted. It's just dating at the moment but I usually don't discuss that I'm seeing other girls but this one has started to ask if I'm doing anything last...

www.sosuave.net

Telling one plate about your other plates?

I tend to tell some of my plates about other girls, just straight up tell them No idea why, it just comes out. Dont think its hurt me yet, bc they still all keep contact. Good idea or no?

www.sosuave.net

 

[BackInTheGame78]

So what's the point of creating this thread? Brag about how great you are?

You bet I will project my opinion based on what you have provided. Tough schitt if you don't like it. You trying to gas light again?

You seemed concerned enuff to start this thread.

Sounds about right.

 

[ValiantMale]

So what's the point of creating this thread? Brag about how great you are?

You bet I will project my opinion based on what you have provided. Tough schitt if you don't like it. You trying to gas light again?

You seemed concerned enuff to start this thread.

It's a forum about social dynamics my guy.. When they create a forum called Simp Central or White Knight Castle, I'll be sure to notify you and the other simps about it.

 

[inquisitor]

she probably already knows what's up, dude. they both probably met before you woke up.

also, if you're gonna keep this up, wash the dishes.

 

[Gamisch]

Threads like these make clear that there are 2 worlds: online / forum life and REAL life. The two oftentimes don't align with one another.

Ofcourse a man at first will be cautious about letting a woman know that she's " just another plate" because arguably it's akin to self sabotage. Imo it's similar to actually giving a woman " exclusivity " while in the back of your mind you know that you won't ever turn down an hb8,5 + who makes it easy to bang her..

Many women play this game as well. They'll have one man as a steady provider while they'll also entertain other ,better prospects. Many men are in LTRs with women who admitted they cheated on them. Let's nit even talk about the work/ gym/ neighbourhood husbands and orbiters..

It's easy to say: you should tell a woman she's a plate" from behind the keyboard. But IRL , when a hottie is in your presence and your trying to hit it ots a different story...

 

[Gamisch]

What's good fellow warriors. I had to run but wanted to add some to my previous post.

So even tho it's totally understandable that OP played the game the way he did , I also agree that the ULTIMATE goal any " don juan " should have is to be at a place of so much abundance that he can be brutally honest with women about where they stand.

Again so much easier said than done because any experienced man knows that there ain't no such thing as a woman who will " go down without a fight". Women have tons of tactics to box you in.

Don't we all strive to eventually date a model tier woman ( hb9 and up) while having the abundance to make her totally submit....? Before you can even dream about having so much leverage over such a woman you'll struggle to make the hb6/7/8 behave and cooperate ..just fax

Let me be VERY clear: I ain't there lol. If today I'm messing with an hb 7,5 I would already be akin to handle this similarly like OP..

How do we get at that level tho?
- financial abundance
- physical health/ being in shape
- spiritual health/ having game
- Tons and tons of experiences and samples of different women and people in general.

To be frank: it will be a life long battle to reach a level that most of us won't ever get to. But.you gotta get rich or at least die trying..

 

[jhonny9546]

this makes sense

 

[Divorced w 3]

So what's the point of creating this thread? Brag about how great you are?

You bet I will project my opinion based on what you have provided. Tough schitt if you don't like it. You trying to gas light again?

You seemed concerned enuff to start this thread.

ITS LITERALLY CALLED “I ALMOST GOT BUSTED”

BUSTED = I AM WORRIED

WORRIED = IM AFRAID OF TELLING HER I SEE OTHER WOMEN

AFRAID OF TELLING HER = NOT A PLAYER

NOT A PLAYER = FRAUD

FRAUD = Rambo

 

[Divorced w 3]

if one starts to lie and gaslight, one will end up with people who do likewise..

It's perfectly okay for your woman to not know the whole, unadulterated truth - that would be detrimental for most of us, and a little mystery goes a long way - but they don't like being misled.

This is what "being yourself" is about, (good) women don't like lies.

The forum doesn’t appreciate being gaslit either

@ValiantMale is going to have an epic meltdown

 

[Gamisch]

ITS LITERALLY CALLED “I ALMOST GOT BUSTED”

BUSTED = I AM WORRIED

WORRIED = IM AFRAID OF TELLING HER I SEE OTHER WOMEN

AFRAID OF TELLING HER = NOT A PLAYER

NOT A PLAYER = FRAUD

FRAUD = Rambo

That's a tad too much imo...

I believe 99% of men( read " aspiring players") handle situations with women like this ...

 

[Cheeky_James]

Had a close call today..

yeah shes onto you bro lol.
She saw the dishes done and put 2+2 together something didn’t add up. Girls be detectives.
Oh and some girls leave lil clues around for other girls to find too (eek!)
I suppose at some point u soon may have to decide which girl is the better option for u and just make a choice…if either girls busts u it’s game over w her and you may lose the one u liked more.

tis tricky business jugglingspinning plates if it’s not clear that it’s all casual and open etc and not worth the stress and mental load of the juggling and making up cover stories after a point tbh.
(For example - your damage control texting after u saw her = time, investment & headache)
it’s a lot of work just for the extra bit of sex .. and you may lose in the end and be facepalmin yo-self.
My 2c.


Other option is ,don’t do damage control texting if she brings it up again re something is sketch . Let her sit w it and make her own choice to keep going w you or not.

 

[ValiantMale]

yeah shes onto you bro lol.
She saw the dishes done and put 2+2 together something didn’t add up. Girls be detectives.
I suppose at some point u soon may have to decide which girl is the better option for u and just make a choice…if either girls busts u it’s game over w her and you may lose the one u like more.

tis tricky business juggling if it’s not clear that it’s all casual and open etc and not worth the stress and mental load of the juggling and making up cover stories after a point tbh. My 2c.

yessir you already know.. thts why i prefer keeping it all open/non exclusive.. they can't blame me for their own insecurities.. I'm a free man lol

 

[Sega Genesis]

and some girls leave lil clues around for other girls to find too...

^^Lol so true! Check out my post in VM's other thread about Girl B's reaction

Chick left an earring on my now-ex's nightstand... and course I found it!

Come to think of it, me thinks my ex wanted me to find it.... to gauge my reaction!

We had just started dating and were not exclusive.

Anyway...

I was cool and we both chuckled.... went exclusive shortly after.

 

[Cheeky_James]

yessir you already know.. thts why i prefer keeping it all open/non exclusive.. they can't blame me for their own insecurities.. I'm a free man lol

hmm. Sounds like it’s not that clear w that Amanda girl that’s it’s non exclusive but anyways…

maybe the subtext of her message was “fyi I know you had another chick at your place I’m not stupid ” and also re the option comment “u best make a choice soon cos I have feelings now and I’m gonna be pissed ‘.

If she thinks it’s just a hookup she’ll let it slide..
But doesn’t wanna be ‘the other woman’ etc etc,

which girl do u dig more A or B?

 

[Divorced w 3]

That's a tad too much imo...

I believe 99% of men( read " aspiring players") handle situations with women like this ...

Of course they would

but, why is he gas lighting the forum saying he’s not worried when he said he almost got busted, that’s literally the definition of being worried

also why is he posting AI generated text messages

 

[ValiantMale]

hmm. Sounds like it’s not that clear w that Amanda girl that’s it’s non exclusive but anyways…

maybe the subtext of her message was “fyi I know you had another chick at your place I’m not stupid ” and also re the option comment “u best make a choice soon cos I have feelings now and I’m gonna be pissed ‘.

If she thinks it’s just a hookup she’ll let it slide..
But doesn’t wanna be ‘the other woman’ etc etc,

which girl do u dig more A or B?

Exactly that. I think the longer I knew her, there was a sense of comfort that sank in for her-- I could tell because she stopped playing games as much and started being more straightforward. I think the dishes thing really threw a wrench into her comfort for a second but she got over it pretty quickly.

I like both of them alot. Girl B is more of my type overall. We have more of a best friend vibe which makes things alot of fun and pleasant. I known her for longer and we both trust each other and the communication is great, we work well together. Girl A is alot of fun too, she can be funny and cute, a bit spicy at times but its more or less her being impatient with me for little things. I really hate to put one over the other but like I said, i've known girl B longer and our personalities click well. There are other girls too but Girl D i will call her, is like a last resort thing-- Girl C is more of what I can see myself in a relationship with but she comes and goes -- super girl's girl, all her friends keep her busy.. I'm more like her secret getaway.. though she says she talks to her friends about me. so idk

 

[Bokanovsky]

I agree, however, most men that are *******s, ****y or ****ty tend to do well with women why is that? because most likely they have an abundance and are indifferent and we know women like men like this especially if he's attractive.

To be good with women you have to be good at manipulating people. It’s that simple. Some men are naturally good manipulators (and may not even realize it) and for some it’s an acquired skill. In any event, I don’t know how you can be a manipulator with “integrity”. To me, that’s a contradiction in terms.

And that’s why “nice guys” finish last. A nice guy is someone who doesn’t engage in manipulation….either because he doesn’t know how or because he feels uncomfortable doing so for moral reasons (the true nice guys I suppose). Regardless of the reasons, men who do not have a manipulative streak always struggle with women.

 

[Divorced w 3]

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as we say where I’m from…. These SMS/RCS iPhone texts are FUGAZI “Fu GAY zi “

If your iPhone messages are green - Apple Support

Why are your iPhone messages green? RCS and MMS/SMS messages appear in green text bubbles on your device. Learn how to have blue bubbles instead.

support.apple.com

 

[Clockwerk50]

You might be right. On my phone, green bubbles say “Text Message,” while blue bubbles say “iMessage.” His pictures have blue bubbles but say “Text Message – SMS.” Lol