"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Almost did it with a friend

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I know this girl who was my collegue before and we always had a good vibe together. We use to do a lot of stuff together as friends but then yesterday i was at her place and we started kissing and touch etc. After a moment she stopped it and said she has started to date someone and that she should have told me that. I took it as a test so i was unbothered and then we kept kissing and touching a bit more and then we stopped. Why did she do this at the first place and what can i expect from her?

Peace
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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She did it because she was feeling attracted to you in the moment. She stopped because she's not 100% on letting you out of the friend zone. But, you're obviously off to a very good start, if that's your goal.

You didn't really elaborate on details so it's hard to say.
 

BMX

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Go on and give her that middle school D.
 

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Thing is that it was a recurring thing throughout the night. Kisses and touch mixed with laughter and cuddles. We even kissed before we said goodbye in the end of the evening. I know that we always had this strong chemistry and she even saw me with another date once (and i know it can boost everything). Im more curious if she was tellin the truth or only testing me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ThisIsSparta

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After a moment she stopped it and said she has started to date someone and that she should have told me that.
If there is another guy or not, doesnt really matter. She is either faking it or clearly open for you to take over.

I guess she wanted to check you out if you have the intention on something serious or just be friends with benefits.

That was the point when you should have said "i wont tell him if you dont" and escalated to sex. According to all the kissing and fun involved, i am pretty sure she would have rolled with that.

This would have been a vague enough reply to keep her guessing if you want her to fall in love with you or just fvck.

What do you want from her now?
 

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Thing is that it was a recurring thing throughout the night. Kisses and touch mixed with laughter and cuddles. We even kissed before we said goodbye in the end of the evening. I know that we always had this strong chemistry and she even saw me with another date once (and i know it can boost everything). Im more curious if she was tellin the truth or only testing me.
Should have pushed a little farther.
 

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Should have pushed a little farther.
To be honest. I was turned off a bit when she mentioned someone else. So i was unsure if i even wanted to continue when she has someone else. But i really dig her
 

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Whatever you do, dont be "unsure what you want" in front of her.

"Grab 'em by the *****" or go home if you are turned off.

As you dig her, you better get a follow up date soon and nail her without insecurity about the (imaginary?) other guy OR you will likely end up in the friendzone...... which will hunt you all your life for the missed oportunity this was.
 
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