"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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All work and no play

slitherjef

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Makes slitherjef a dull boy.

Seems all I ever do any more is work commute to work via public transportation and sleep. The car and learning to drive it is being worked on but still seems all I do is work sleep and go to work. I'm posting this message from work.

Heck I still miss out on sleep so I can relax and light up my guitar a bit.

My work hours are jacked public transportation sucks and by the time I get a day off all I want to do is sleep and relax. Driving will help but it is still a commute.

This basicly leaves the chicks at work to talk to though they look good, if I go after them and get shot down people start to talk and I may get a rep as desperate.

This just leaves the bus and not that many hotties ride it
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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benjiprice

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Dunno what the point of this message is but I guess I'll take it:
Unless you work 7 days a week you can meet girls on other days. But not having fun has deeper implications in your life. Forgetting girls, are you happy with not having enough time for anything? Is it worth it?

If not either change jobs or move closer to your job. Depending one your personal situation, that might be easy or hard. But if it's something you want, you'll find the way and put the effort into it.
 

Effington

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When I first started my job out of school, I was working 8-5, but had a 2 hour train ride and 30 minute ride from the train station each way, so I was waking up at about 5:00am, then after work I would go to the gym; when I got home, it was 9:00pm, hadn't ate dinner, and I was exhausted. It sucked. And I didn't even work that many hours!

I met up with buddies on the weekend to keep my sanity, but after about 8 months I kind of lost it and found a place 20 minutes from work. Best decision I ever made!
 

penkitten

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first you gotta give yourself time to adjust to any changes that have just happened and second you must remember that it is a phase and things will go back to normal soon.
plan to do something to relax soon and plan to do something out with your friends soon.
it will make you feel better.
 

slitherjef

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Thanks all. Don't want to move, since we just bought a house. Kind of sucks living at home too, but I help take care of my dad, so me being home helps the family out. Plus they kind of need my help with the house. Should not have much problem bring a girl home, that is, if I can find one :rolleyes:

Friends? Don't have too many and seem to have trouble making them. My one friend lives about 20 some miles from me, works full time, spends time with a lot of girls. This is normal, not really a phase.

Guess I need to, on my day off, sit and think of an action plan, how I can make the best use of my time on the bus or at work, or something
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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