"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
All women are the same
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
I've dated lots of good girls and lots of bad ones. It makes people look weak when they fall into that "All women are (blank)." way of thinking. When these guys say that, they sound exactly like the fat chick with a crap personality that says "All men are dogs."
I'm not gonna let a couple bad chicks sour my hopes of finding the next good one.
For a fat chic most men are dogs, they want to hit it but they don't want to be with her. For the average Herb or AFC all women are the same, they can't get one and when they do they can't hold on to her. It's the cry of the weak.Iceberg said:Yeah. Seems like a lot of people here have been hurt, and they're letting that cloud their judgment.
I've dated lots of good girls and lots of bad ones. It makes people look weak when they fall into that "All women are (blank)." way of thinking. When these guys say that, they sound exactly like the fat chick with a crap personality that says "All men are dogs."
I'm not gonna let a couple bad chicks sour my hopes of finding the next good one.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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All women eat, drink, and sleep. So there you have it!
Seriously though, going beyond these most basic of all human similarities, it's unwise to make generalities about women.
There are two reasons for this:
1) It's not accurate - no two women are the same, no two women have the same life experiences, fears, dreams, hopes, or desires, and no two women will have their desires fulfilled in the same way (and no, I'm not talking sexually).
But as humans, we like to generalize... it's makes things easy (and let's face it, we tend to be lazy.)
Someone can be very good with women, making generalizations that will help him succeed. However, I can guarantee you that he will not be able to get all women, for the simply reason that his generalizations, even if successful, will by default cause him to fail with certain women who do not fit the filter that he uses to see the world.
2) It takes the fun and enjoyment out of the process - even if all women are the same (which I don't believe), I would still choose to behave as if all women are different because it adds enjoyment, fun, and magic into the formula. Without that, picking up girls would quickly become a boring chore (trust me, I fell in this trap before.)
My two cents,
MotU
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These things are road maps, based on it you will have some idea if it´s worth going there. Try also to know what kind of girl attracts you (personality).
One thing which pisses me off with women is that most are so damn comformist. I don't want to sound like the goth kids from southpark but women seldom have an opinion which sticks out. They are generally very gullible and too emotional for their own good. Feminism is the perfect ideology to **** up countries because women are generally not fit of being in charge or make the tough decisions.
But I do agree, not every women is the same but I'd say 90-95% are pretty useless for most men. Standard values, standard thoughts, standard ideas, just plain mediocrity. A man who wants to go anywhere in life should chose a woman who can think outside the box.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
this forum describes a few type of men that 90% fit into one of these descriptions. I used to be an AFC :$ well I read some articles here that described my life
when it comes to dating, variety when it comes to personality is not very widespread
which is why yes this forum can describe what women want and what men should do and how