Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Every woman I've ever met, except for the really old ones (50s and above), at a cosmetics store (like Sephora, like Ulta, etc etc.) is an Uber Biatch. I mean, I catch them looking at me, I Know she's into me (just mid-30s like me), but the next day she'll be miss pouty puff again and "Act" like she doesn't like me or in a "get the fvck outta my face" kinda attitude. Just capital Pissy. ALL women in cosmetic stores are PPPPPPisssy. I mean, what Man would EVER put up with these kinds of creatures over the long haul. If she ain't that rare bird who's worshiping me at my feet, I don't want nothing to do with it/her. It's just a cauldron of oily, syrupy, clay mix, hindrance to my health. These are the kind you Use, you fvck em and leave em. In the realm of women, there are very few keepers. Only a fool would try to "keep" the first woman he sees.perseverance said:Just look at the relationship between women and the comestic industry. The cosmetic industry exploits women's insecurities to sell products and generate billions in what is a highly lucrative industry and women just cannot see it.
So I'd argue that a majority of women are not confident or independent.
99% of men thats who....sadly.Poonani Maker said:ALL women in cosmetic stores are PPPPPPisssy. I mean, what Man would EVER put up with these kinds of creatures over the long haul. .
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
This is why you must learn how to be more attractive than most of the other guys out there. When you become more interesting and exciting than her bf, she will dump him for you.Fengal said:Ahhhh this drives me mad. All the girls I am interested in have boyfriends.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Burroughs said:To answer the OP yes..most girls who have their sh!t together, ie aniston/N Portman body types, good education, funny, fun...will have a bf since they are 16..They are simply too many desperate dudes hitting on hb8 with foul personalities that the hb8s with good personalities will be snapped up like 20 dollar Jordan 3s.
Your job if you are unable to land a top tier chick is to elevate your life..not YOUR GAME YOUR LIFE...becoming a better person, $$, hobbies, everything so you can lure her away from the dude she is with...because a TOP TIER CHICK WILL NEVER BE SINGLE AFTER AGE 21
So by this logic, those of us who are on this website, diving into the materials and strategies in order to attract, date, and keep a woman, and date many of them, are not really confident at all since we are seeking self validation from outside sourcesperseverance said:A lot of confident women really aren't all that confident at all. Also if a girl is in a relationship with someone then she is hardly independent is she? She's committed to someone, that hardly equates to independence does it? I know one girl she gets around, she openly admits she is curious for ****, but why? She enjoys sex like everyone else, but she seeks self-validation from outside sources - these men that sleep with her give her the validation that she needs. They make her feel attractive, make her feel desired and wanted.
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So I'd argue that a majority of women are not confident or independent.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Pretty much.Serg897 said:So by this logic, those of us who are on this website, diving into the materials and strategies in order to attract, date, and keep a woman, and date many of them, are not really confident at all since we are seeking self validation from outside sources
Confident guys don't need a girlfriend to get what they wantGameTime76 said:I'm sure most Confident and Independant guys have girlfriends too!![]()
Don't confuse confidence with manipulation.Fengal said:Ahhhh this drives me mad. All the girls I am interested in have boyfriends. I think its because I'm attracted to their confidence and independence. I really don't know what to do about it...