Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Every woman I've ever met, except for the really old ones (50s and above), at a cosmetics store (like Sephora, like Ulta, etc etc.) is an Uber Biatch. I mean, I catch them looking at me, I Know she's into me (just mid-30s like me), but the next day she'll be miss pouty puff again and "Act" like she doesn't like me or in a "get the fvck outta my face" kinda attitude. Just capital Pissy. ALL women in cosmetic stores are PPPPPPisssy. I mean, what Man would EVER put up with these kinds of creatures over the long haul. If she ain't that rare bird who's worshiping me at my feet, I don't want nothing to do with it/her. It's just a cauldron of oily, syrupy, clay mix, hindrance to my health. These are the kind you Use, you fvck em and leave em. In the realm of women, there are very few keepers. Only a fool would try to "keep" the first woman he sees.perseverance said:Just look at the relationship between women and the comestic industry. The cosmetic industry exploits women's insecurities to sell products and generate billions in what is a highly lucrative industry and women just cannot see it.
So I'd argue that a majority of women are not confident or independent.
99% of men thats who....sadly.Poonani Maker said:ALL women in cosmetic stores are PPPPPPisssy. I mean, what Man would EVER put up with these kinds of creatures over the long haul. .
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is why you must learn how to be more attractive than most of the other guys out there. When you become more interesting and exciting than her bf, she will dump him for you.Fengal said:Ahhhh this drives me mad. All the girls I am interested in have boyfriends.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Burroughs said:To answer the OP yes..most girls who have their sh!t together, ie aniston/N Portman body types, good education, funny, fun...will have a bf since they are 16..They are simply too many desperate dudes hitting on hb8 with foul personalities that the hb8s with good personalities will be snapped up like 20 dollar Jordan 3s.
Your job if you are unable to land a top tier chick is to elevate your life..not YOUR GAME YOUR LIFE...becoming a better person, $$, hobbies, everything so you can lure her away from the dude she is with...because a TOP TIER CHICK WILL NEVER BE SINGLE AFTER AGE 21
So by this logic, those of us who are on this website, diving into the materials and strategies in order to attract, date, and keep a woman, and date many of them, are not really confident at all since we are seeking self validation from outside sourcesperseverance said:A lot of confident women really aren't all that confident at all. Also if a girl is in a relationship with someone then she is hardly independent is she? She's committed to someone, that hardly equates to independence does it? I know one girl she gets around, she openly admits she is curious for ****, but why? She enjoys sex like everyone else, but she seeks self-validation from outside sources - these men that sleep with her give her the validation that she needs. They make her feel attractive, make her feel desired and wanted.
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So I'd argue that a majority of women are not confident or independent.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Pretty much.Serg897 said:So by this logic, those of us who are on this website, diving into the materials and strategies in order to attract, date, and keep a woman, and date many of them, are not really confident at all since we are seeking self validation from outside sources
Confident guys don't need a girlfriend to get what they wantGameTime76 said:I'm sure most Confident and Independant guys have girlfriends too!![]()
Don't confuse confidence with manipulation.Fengal said:Ahhhh this drives me mad. All the girls I am interested in have boyfriends. I think its because I'm attracted to their confidence and independence. I really don't know what to do about it...