"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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All out attack?

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This super-hot babe, bar-tender in a local cofeeshop...I gave it a long shot on her, hang around a bit to see what's going on. Nothing much, no boyfriend, but she's got a lot of social life. Anyway, yesterday, after I finished my cofee, I took an empty cup to the bar, for sort of 'bye-bye" attention. Dear lord, she turned towards me and she gave me a WINK! I guess this means "All out attack" mode?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by rick6599
This super-hot babe, bar-tender in a local cofeeshop...I gave it a long shot on her, hang around a bit to see what's going on. Nothing much, no boyfriend, but she's got a lot of social life. Anyway, yesterday, after I finished my cofee, I took an empty cup to the bar, for sort of 'bye-bye" attention. Dear lord, she turned towards me and she gave me a WINK! I guess this means "All out attack" mode?
Yup. Full-on assault. Bust a chair over her head and take her in the back.

LOL don't be so dramatic about it. Next time you walk by the coffeeshop, stop in to say hi and get her number.
 

DJ Alejandro

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maybe she just had something in her eye. :D

just be casual and dont make a big deal out of everything. you can do it. just act like you've known her for a long time and be comfortable when talking to her. then get her number.

good luck.
 

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"Yup. Full-on assault. Bust a chair over her head and take her in the back."

Thanks, ***hole ;)

I just about fell off my chair laughing :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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