skip, you need to mature your game though...you are 22 and soon you'll be sick of nightclubs and myspace sluts, where does that leave you? i'm not hating on you, but in a short while you aren't going to want the dumb sluts anymore
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is what I come here for... fantasticShut up you freakin idiot.(no offense at all, dude)
Very true. Cold approaching just isn't done here.mr_elor said:It's true, us British just don't do cold approaching. I know quite a lot of guys who are into this whole side of things (as well as plenty who aren't obviously), and NOT ONE of them does cold approaches, instead of relying on nightclubs, pubs, house parties, friends of friends etc.
Yeah, that's actually pretty close. Out of every 10 girls I approach (that aren't in a commited relationship already), I go on dates with about 7 of them, and of those 7, I take about 5 of them home and bang them out. That's not because I look like some Grecian hero or somthing, it's because I know how to qualify them to start with, then I know how to read them and adjust to present myself in a way that makes them want me. I could go out this minute and find a girl that would come home with me, guaranteed. Fortunately, unlike some people on this board, I don't completely define myself by the number of skanky teenagers I can spam into banging me once or twice, so I have time to have some sort of life outside of pretending to be a player.Scrumtulescence said:What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park?
Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?skip2mylou781 said:i seriously have no idea how bad british girls are........but damn u make them sound really bad.......what, do they pepper spray u the second u say hello?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
thank you for pointing out what exactly what I was thinkingScrumtulescence said:S1nn3r sounds like some kind of moron of epic proportions (no offense at all, dude). I didn't even read past his second or third paragraph. If you end up having sex with 2% of the women you merely approach....if you approach a decent number of girls....that's a lot. What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park? Shut up you freakin idiot.
u should seriously try myspace....or w/e the equivalent for that is over there in EnglandL777 said:Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?
But I kinda like being British, overall, its pretty cool.