skip, you need to mature your game though...you are 22 and soon you'll be sick of nightclubs and myspace sluts, where does that leave you? i'm not hating on you, but in a short while you aren't going to want the dumb sluts anymore
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
This is what I come here for... fantasticShut up you freakin idiot.(no offense at all, dude)
Very true. Cold approaching just isn't done here.mr_elor said:It's true, us British just don't do cold approaching. I know quite a lot of guys who are into this whole side of things (as well as plenty who aren't obviously), and NOT ONE of them does cold approaches, instead of relying on nightclubs, pubs, house parties, friends of friends etc.
Yeah, that's actually pretty close. Out of every 10 girls I approach (that aren't in a commited relationship already), I go on dates with about 7 of them, and of those 7, I take about 5 of them home and bang them out. That's not because I look like some Grecian hero or somthing, it's because I know how to qualify them to start with, then I know how to read them and adjust to present myself in a way that makes them want me. I could go out this minute and find a girl that would come home with me, guaranteed. Fortunately, unlike some people on this board, I don't completely define myself by the number of skanky teenagers I can spam into banging me once or twice, so I have time to have some sort of life outside of pretending to be a player.Scrumtulescence said:What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park?
Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?skip2mylou781 said:i seriously have no idea how bad british girls are........but damn u make them sound really bad.......what, do they pepper spray u the second u say hello?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
thank you for pointing out what exactly what I was thinkingScrumtulescence said:S1nn3r sounds like some kind of moron of epic proportions (no offense at all, dude). I didn't even read past his second or third paragraph. If you end up having sex with 2% of the women you merely approach....if you approach a decent number of girls....that's a lot. What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park? Shut up you freakin idiot.
u should seriously try myspace....or w/e the equivalent for that is over there in EnglandL777 said:Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?
But I kinda like being British, overall, its pretty cool.