skip, you need to mature your game though...you are 22 and soon you'll be sick of nightclubs and myspace sluts, where does that leave you? i'm not hating on you, but in a short while you aren't going to want the dumb sluts anymore
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This is what I come here for... fantasticShut up you freakin idiot.(no offense at all, dude)
Very true. Cold approaching just isn't done here.mr_elor said:It's true, us British just don't do cold approaching. I know quite a lot of guys who are into this whole side of things (as well as plenty who aren't obviously), and NOT ONE of them does cold approaches, instead of relying on nightclubs, pubs, house parties, friends of friends etc.
Yeah, that's actually pretty close. Out of every 10 girls I approach (that aren't in a commited relationship already), I go on dates with about 7 of them, and of those 7, I take about 5 of them home and bang them out. That's not because I look like some Grecian hero or somthing, it's because I know how to qualify them to start with, then I know how to read them and adjust to present myself in a way that makes them want me. I could go out this minute and find a girl that would come home with me, guaranteed. Fortunately, unlike some people on this board, I don't completely define myself by the number of skanky teenagers I can spam into banging me once or twice, so I have time to have some sort of life outside of pretending to be a player.Scrumtulescence said:What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park?
Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?skip2mylou781 said:i seriously have no idea how bad british girls are........but damn u make them sound really bad.......what, do they pepper spray u the second u say hello?
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
thank you for pointing out what exactly what I was thinkingScrumtulescence said:S1nn3r sounds like some kind of moron of epic proportions (no offense at all, dude). I didn't even read past his second or third paragraph. If you end up having sex with 2% of the women you merely approach....if you approach a decent number of girls....that's a lot. What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park? Shut up you freakin idiot.
u should seriously try myspace....or w/e the equivalent for that is over there in EnglandL777 said:Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?
But I kinda like being British, overall, its pretty cool.