skip, you need to mature your game though...you are 22 and soon you'll be sick of nightclubs and myspace sluts, where does that leave you? i'm not hating on you, but in a short while you aren't going to want the dumb sluts anymore
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This is what I come here for... fantasticShut up you freakin idiot.(no offense at all, dude)
Very true. Cold approaching just isn't done here.mr_elor said:It's true, us British just don't do cold approaching. I know quite a lot of guys who are into this whole side of things (as well as plenty who aren't obviously), and NOT ONE of them does cold approaches, instead of relying on nightclubs, pubs, house parties, friends of friends etc.
Yeah, that's actually pretty close. Out of every 10 girls I approach (that aren't in a commited relationship already), I go on dates with about 7 of them, and of those 7, I take about 5 of them home and bang them out. That's not because I look like some Grecian hero or somthing, it's because I know how to qualify them to start with, then I know how to read them and adjust to present myself in a way that makes them want me. I could go out this minute and find a girl that would come home with me, guaranteed. Fortunately, unlike some people on this board, I don't completely define myself by the number of skanky teenagers I can spam into banging me once or twice, so I have time to have some sort of life outside of pretending to be a player.Scrumtulescence said:What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park?
Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?skip2mylou781 said:i seriously have no idea how bad british girls are........but damn u make them sound really bad.......what, do they pepper spray u the second u say hello?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
thank you for pointing out what exactly what I was thinkingScrumtulescence said:S1nn3r sounds like some kind of moron of epic proportions (no offense at all, dude). I didn't even read past his second or third paragraph. If you end up having sex with 2% of the women you merely approach....if you approach a decent number of girls....that's a lot. What do you expect to end up having sex with every other girl you meet in the grocery store or at the park? Shut up you freakin idiot.
u should seriously try myspace....or w/e the equivalent for that is over there in EnglandL777 said:Lol, not really, most of them are fine when you "break the ice" with them, but thats just not really done as much over here, I mean ppl don't just randomly talk to each other at all really. However, I am starting to get good at cold approaching, so it could be argued that this is an advantage cos not many girls here are used to it....?
But I kinda like being British, overall, its pretty cool.