"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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All kinds of questions!

kel

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Ive done a lot of thinking and observing lately. I've discovered mistakes i've made, and things i've done right, but now i have questions in great supply :)

a) when you're being a bit of a **** and funny as hell, so basically C+F, and a girl says "I reaallly...just dont know what to make of you!" Is that good or bad?

b) I'm on the train with my friend (a true DJ if ever there was one) and I get a call from a mutual friend i'm sort of pulling. She calls me a few times, and then i put my phone on silent and miss her call. She calls my friend (to tell us the ballgame score) and he asks her why she keeps calling ME not HIM. Her reply was that I "kept calling her" or something like that, which we thought was really odd. I've dialed her number maybe twice in my life. and txt'ed her a few times. Was she just trying to stay in good standing with him too and making up an excuse, or does she view me as needy and such?

c) Im the kind of person that really doesn't like random hooking up. I'm really an LTR kinda guy, so that's my "goal" these days. My main trouble is finding girls i really connect with. Is there anything at all I can do about that? Its frustrating that I cant find girls I consider LTR material...
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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jakeyboy

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a) she's finding it queer you suddenly pull this C and F on her.. not too sure though. might be good, you're maintaining that mysterious air about you.. the less she knows the better, if she cant make you out, then its a good sign

b)excuse. haha. talking pure bull that she is.

c)Pook's Anti Dump Machine... it filters women out for LTR material for YOU. so the girl is suited to YOUR needs. im using it too. pretty good, at least at the end of it all, you get the girl who is marriage material for you. and she likes you for you alone, nothing else. strictly for LTR material only. you can find it in the DJ bible... near the bottom. all the best mate
 

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In the first instance, i had JUST met the girl, so it was synchronous with my other behaviour. I would be constantly busting her balls, but there was a detectable niceness about me anyway. I made her 'earn' my liking her. When she said something i agreed with, I'd say like "Okay...you're not so bad after all. ya know what? you're all right."
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biker_gixxer

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Originally posted by kel
In the first instance, i had JUST met the girl, so it was synchronous with my other behaviour. I would be constantly busting her balls, but there was a detectable niceness about me anyway. I made her 'earn' my liking her. When she said something i agreed with, I'd say like "Okay...you're not so bad after all. ya know what? you're all right."
:)
lol, nice work bro, keep it up.
 
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