"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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First off, I know that some of this stuff has probably been talked about to death but PLEASE DON'T CLOSE THIS TOPIC.

I will sort my problems and the like by numbers


1) I'm tall and skinny and thus fat girls like me all the time. The obvious response would be to workout, but being muscular makes me look even nerdier (think Jeff Goldblum).

2) Kind of goes along with the first one but fat girls end up liking me/flirting with me/having a crush on me ALL THE TIME. I ignore them but it still happens. And this also makes me not want to be outgoing because every time that I am outgoing a fat girl ends up liking me. Therefore I'm an introvert because if I am outoing a fat girl will like me which ends up in me being depressed.

3) I'm constantly in a beta male position. Whether it's a roommate or a friend who's always getting laid or I don't have a girl at the most opportune times. And rather than inspiring me it gets me depressed.

4) Yes, I'm guilty of one-itis. There's always this one girl that I end up thinking about constantly but this one doesn't always prevent me from being outgoing.

5) I go to bars, clubs and parties. I attempt to be social and approach girls and I get no results.

6) I've gone to a very populated college for some time now but still have not had luck.

I'm sure there's more which I might add later. Thanks ahead for any advice.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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1. Being more muscular will NOT make you look more nerdy. NOT being muscular makes you look nerdy. Hit the gym.

2. The fat girls are attracted to you because you are not INTIMIDATING enough with your pencil-thick arms. Hit the gym.

3. Hang out with him. Chat up the other girls. Working out will increase confidence. Hit the gym.

4. I know how you feel. Best solution to this, in my experience, is to just interact with different girls. That way you don't think about a particular one too much.

5. I understand that as well. Bars and clubs are the toughest environment, you need to start smaller and then work your way up.

6. DJ's don't "get lucky". That's making it seem like the GIRL has the power to fu*k you or not. It's the other way around. You want to be in the mindset that THEY want YOU, not the other way around. Don't be needy. Relax. Notice any IOI's she gives you. Escalate physically.
 
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I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
 
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lazikia said:
I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
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This has to be a troll. If not, you're really dense, sorry.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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lazikia said:
I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
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Your self-image is flawed.

Post pics.
 
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stand said:
This has to be a troll. If not, you're really dense, sorry.
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Why would someone bother to take the time to troll this forum?
 
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I don't have any pics, but just imagine a really nerdy face with a big upper body. It looks pretty goofy.

AND the kind of girls I'm interested in probably wouldn't want a muscular guy.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Vice said:
2. The fat girls are attracted to you because you are not INTIMIDATING enough with your pencil-thick arms. Hit the gym.
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So what's a way to be intimidating aside from being muscular? That would be great advice.
 
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lazikia said:
So what's a way to be intimidating aside from being muscular? That would be great advice.
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Be a man, which youre not. Stop youre b*tching and do something about it.
 
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seems to me that you dont even have enough confidence in yourself yet. maybe you oughta build that first in yourself. how? it is by believing first that you are or could be a don juan. :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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