"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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All About Me - Advice Wanted

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First off, I know that some of this stuff has probably been talked about to death but PLEASE DON'T CLOSE THIS TOPIC.

I will sort my problems and the like by numbers


1) I'm tall and skinny and thus fat girls like me all the time. The obvious response would be to workout, but being muscular makes me look even nerdier (think Jeff Goldblum).

2) Kind of goes along with the first one but fat girls end up liking me/flirting with me/having a crush on me ALL THE TIME. I ignore them but it still happens. And this also makes me not want to be outgoing because every time that I am outgoing a fat girl ends up liking me. Therefore I'm an introvert because if I am outoing a fat girl will like me which ends up in me being depressed.

3) I'm constantly in a beta male position. Whether it's a roommate or a friend who's always getting laid or I don't have a girl at the most opportune times. And rather than inspiring me it gets me depressed.

4) Yes, I'm guilty of one-itis. There's always this one girl that I end up thinking about constantly but this one doesn't always prevent me from being outgoing.

5) I go to bars, clubs and parties. I attempt to be social and approach girls and I get no results.

6) I've gone to a very populated college for some time now but still have not had luck.

I'm sure there's more which I might add later. Thanks ahead for any advice.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Vice

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1. Being more muscular will NOT make you look more nerdy. NOT being muscular makes you look nerdy. Hit the gym.

2. The fat girls are attracted to you because you are not INTIMIDATING enough with your pencil-thick arms. Hit the gym.

3. Hang out with him. Chat up the other girls. Working out will increase confidence. Hit the gym.

4. I know how you feel. Best solution to this, in my experience, is to just interact with different girls. That way you don't think about a particular one too much.

5. I understand that as well. Bars and clubs are the toughest environment, you need to start smaller and then work your way up.

6. DJ's don't "get lucky". That's making it seem like the GIRL has the power to fu*k you or not. It's the other way around. You want to be in the mindset that THEY want YOU, not the other way around. Don't be needy. Relax. Notice any IOI's she gives you. Escalate physically.
 

lazikia

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I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
 

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lazikia said:
I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
This has to be a troll. If not, you're really dense, sorry.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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lazikia said:
I promise you being muscular does make me look nerdier. I already have a big upper body and it just makes me look like I really want to get laid.
Your self-image is flawed.

Post pics.
 

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stand said:
This has to be a troll. If not, you're really dense, sorry.
Why would someone bother to take the time to troll this forum?
 

lazikia

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I don't have any pics, but just imagine a really nerdy face with a big upper body. It looks pretty goofy.

AND the kind of girls I'm interested in probably wouldn't want a muscular guy.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lazikia

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Vice said:
2. The fat girls are attracted to you because you are not INTIMIDATING enough with your pencil-thick arms. Hit the gym.
So what's a way to be intimidating aside from being muscular? That would be great advice.
 

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lazikia said:
So what's a way to be intimidating aside from being muscular? That would be great advice.
Be a man, which youre not. Stop youre b*tching and do something about it.
 

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seems to me that you dont even have enough confidence in yourself yet. maybe you oughta build that first in yourself. how? it is by believing first that you are or could be a don juan. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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