"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
familyguyfan
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You just helped further prove my point as to why it would be dumb to do it...
It's a bad drug where the negatives far outweigh the positives. Stick to pot and shrooms.
And why would you want to have the effect of being able to drink twice as much but not get as drunk? That basically just nullifies the point of drinking.
undesputable
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nah man ive been around that **** for some time now, and with a lot of will power ive been able to stay away from it. if im going to do some really bad **** like that i rather do some x. but thats not the point ive quit drugs altogether, except for alcohol which is the most fun, but ironically i feel that is affecting me the worst. ive cut down on the drinking anyways bc im training for boxing. it sucks tho bc just one night of no sleep and lots of drinking can ruin a whole week of hard training. thats all it takes, one day.
Aztec
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Reflect on your statements.
I hardly see a response that really answered your concern.
Alcohol is highly possible to be a precursor to any addictive substance. It obviously shows when you said that you look forward to getting hammered.
It is probably funny now because you are young but WATCH IT!!! At least, you can identify that something is probably wrong in this picture.
A lot of people (ie college-age folks) use and abuse substances and let go of these habits when they get their own jobs, families etc. Meaning they outgrow this sh1t. Also, a lot of people get stuck. And when they get stuck, they are stuck for a loooong time (short time if they die soon).
Watch families get destroyed by alcoholism. Maybe spending multiple times in jail for DWI/DUI....maybe for vehicular manslaughter. Maybe spending your and/or taxpayers' dollars going in and out of detox/rehab. Maybe that's your thing or maybe not. You have those choices.
Some "experts" believe that some people are prone to this "disease" anyway and it could be hereditary. Don't believe in this complete BS because it isn't true. You can get out of this mess without any formal treatment or going to any "anonymous" groups. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
I can't tell you to stop because you may tend to do the opposite and start binging everyday, but just keep the consequences in mind (or the benefits of not being an alky or a druggie)
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DrMetallica
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Of course he looks forward to getting drunk at a party. Just about everyone that goes to a party looks forward to it beforehand. That's not necessarily a sign of alcoholism.
You are right though that most people grow out of the frequent nights of drunken partying, but some do not, and that is when it becomes a problem.
You're completely wrong though that alcoholism cannot be hereditary. You won't necessarily only become an alcoholic if someone in your family before you has, but if that is the case, then you will be more prone to it. Native americans are perfect examples of alcoholism being hereditary.
And in his current situation of just getting drunk at parties with his friend, you're right, he doesn't need formal treatment to stop. But, a full-blown alcoholic does need formal treatment to stop.
Aztec
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Fruit doesn't fall far from the tree. This is because they see what their family members do, therefore they emulate them consciously or not. Monkey see, monkey do. Not because it's genetic. One has the choice to break the cycle.
I agree that full-blown, out of control alcoholics need some sort of a jumpstart or "slap to the back of the head" by sending them to rehab in the beginning for evaluation and treatment. Keep in mind that a lot of these people tend to recidivate due to the "teachings" they get from inside.
I also used to look forward to weekends because that meant hanging out with my army buddies and getting that Pabst Blue Ribbon in to my system. As a matter of fact, I still do. Thinking about it, it's not because I'm looking forward getting hammered but being in the company of my friends. I don't know what undesputable's situation is. Some people makes excuses just to be intoxicated, be it around people or in isolation. That's the difference.
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Nope, you're still wrong there. While that is the case sometimes, it still can be genetics. It doesn't even have to be in your immediate family. Could be grandfather, aunt, uncle, whoever. Once again I bring up the Native American case.
And it has little to do with "breaking the cycle" because if you have a grandfather that was an alcoholic for example, it doesn't necessarily mean you will definitely be an alcoholic. It just means you are more prone to being one yourself.
penkitten
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PRMoon
Master Don Juan
hmmmm...
It appears to me that alchol is a drug. A widely available and widely accepted drug.
Not saying I don't like it...even love it but none-the-less alchol is a drug. So like any other brain and mind altering drug, there are going to be certain addictive qualities to it, thats just kind of how the way world works. Sure many of us may or may not go down that road becuase many of us don't know what it's like to be that poor, or lose that much, or have some kind of emotinal void, or just escape from reality etc etc, all of those things that alcholics couple together as their reason for drinking. But again that's what drug attics do. The only way all of society will be rid of alcholism would be to remove alchol all together. Maybe it'll happen, but it won't be in this lifetime.
undesputable
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i dont think that will ever happen... It has already happened in the past....didnt last long.alcohol will always be around.
PRMoon
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You never really know. I mean society might some day combat the damages that we do to ourselves as humans, and one day be rid of all harmful entertainment drugs. It seems very unlikely now because of the way things are but certianly in a few hundred, few thousand years (If humans are still around) such a thing could be possible.