"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Alcohol makes me outgoing, I'm shy without it

lazikia

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I've tried several ways to become outgoing when I'm sober but I just can't do it. I don't want to have to drink all the time to talk to a girl. Any advice?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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synergy1

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practice. It took me years to get out of my shell, and I still go back every once and a while. Its human. its who you are. As I have said in other threads regarding shyness, my experience breaking it involved putting myself in positions where I couldn't be shy. After a while, you realize the fear is unfounded and you get confident exerting yourself. Sports reffing was a great way to accelerate this. They even teach you how to not talk like a sissy.

Alcohol does this to everyone which is why a good number of folks drink. Heck, I do too! All it does is artificially make you not care what other people think. If you can achieve this w/ out assistance, than your shyness should abate.
 

PDubb75

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I was like you at one point. Don't say you "can't" do it. It just takes time and practice. You just need to realize that nothing bad will happen from opening up and having a good time. The more you stop thinking about it and just force yourself, the more confidence you will get for next time.

Just think about it. If you are shy and don't talk to a girl, you leave without a date/number/girl.

But, if you try and push through your shyness 1 of 2 things will happen. Either you leave without a date/number/girl, or you leave WITH a date/number/girl.

Just think of it in the respect that there is no positive outcome by not pushing through and talking to these girls. It won't get you anywhere so just face it head on and stop thinking about rejection.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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PapiChulo

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Canada, eh?
What made you shy in the first place? I keep asking people and never get a straight forward answer.
 

lazikia

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PapiChulo said:
What made you shy in the first place? I keep asking people and never get a straight forward answer.
Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.
 
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yeah, man; I went to a friend's kegger last week, and made out with about 8 girls after I got 3 beers in me.

maybe I should just carry a flask of beam on at all times...
 

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lazikia said:
Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.
I suffered the same faith as you..... And I also suffered really long from it.
Right now I (and lots of other people) see booze as an social aid and there is no problem in using it. Some people need it, some don't.
 
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