"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Alcohol makes me outgoing, I'm shy without it
- Thread starter lazikia
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Alcohol does this to everyone which is why a good number of folks drink. Heck, I do too! All it does is artificially make you not care what other people think. If you can achieve this w/ out assistance, than your shyness should abate.
Just think about it. If you are shy and don't talk to a girl, you leave without a date/number/girl.
But, if you try and push through your shyness 1 of 2 things will happen. Either you leave without a date/number/girl, or you leave WITH a date/number/girl.
Just think of it in the respect that there is no positive outcome by not pushing through and talking to these girls. It won't get you anywhere so just face it head on and stop thinking about rejection.
you share that with every other mammal. Everybody's more outgoing when they're drunk.Alcohol makes me outgoing, I'm shy without it
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.PapiChulo said:What made you shy in the first place? I keep asking people and never get a straight forward answer.
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maybe I should just carry a flask of beam on at all times...
PlayCold
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I suffered the same faith as you..... And I also suffered really long from it.lazikia said:Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.
Right now I (and lots of other people) see booze as an social aid and there is no problem in using it. Some people need it, some don't.