"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Alcohol makes me outgoing, I'm shy without it
- Thread starter lazikia
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Alcohol does this to everyone which is why a good number of folks drink. Heck, I do too! All it does is artificially make you not care what other people think. If you can achieve this w/ out assistance, than your shyness should abate.
Just think about it. If you are shy and don't talk to a girl, you leave without a date/number/girl.
But, if you try and push through your shyness 1 of 2 things will happen. Either you leave without a date/number/girl, or you leave WITH a date/number/girl.
Just think of it in the respect that there is no positive outcome by not pushing through and talking to these girls. It won't get you anywhere so just face it head on and stop thinking about rejection.
you share that with every other mammal. Everybody's more outgoing when they're drunk.Alcohol makes me outgoing, I'm shy without it
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
PapiChulo
Master Don Juan
Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.PapiChulo said:What made you shy in the first place? I keep asking people and never get a straight forward answer.
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maybe I should just carry a flask of beam on at all times...
PlayCold
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I suffered the same faith as you..... And I also suffered really long from it.lazikia said:Well, I switched schools a bunch as a child and I think that's what made me shy. I constantly had to face a new group of strangers.
Right now I (and lots of other people) see booze as an social aid and there is no problem in using it. Some people need it, some don't.