"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Alcohol & Controlling Anger?

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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The Duke

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Alcohol is a psychoactive drug, it alters perception and inhibits emotions. Some people become happy, others angry.

I've had a few friends get aggressive once they got drunk and the slightest thing could bring out their anger.

Alcohol usually makes me horny.
 

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Nope. I don't drink a lot but the times I do have a bit much to drink I don't get angry. I just get tired and more relaxed.
 

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I am not normally an angry drunk because i am normally not angry but it can amplify the emotions i am having probably due to limiting their inhibition so if there is something i am angry about, i may feel more angry
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I just become mostly happy. If someone intentionally tries to piss me off I derive a sense of power from not letting them influence my good mood.

Drunk or sober, I realized years ago that anger is nothing more than self-inflicted suffering, it's painful. I love myself, I have no desire to cause my own suffering. I control my emotions and I can choose not to do that to myself. Besides, it usually doesn't solve anything and will probably just escalate the problem.

I go out drinking to have fun, I focus on having fun. So when an obstacle to fun appears I take the path of least resistance and providing resistance by getting angry isn't the answer. If I can just walk away then I'll do that instead. If I'm at a bar and someone gets aggressive I go notify the bouncers/bar staff.

Drunk or sober, I feel no need to prove myself, particularly not towards strangers. I don't care about idiots, they're not worth my anger. They're not worth anything to me so the last thing I'll do is waste more energy than absolutely necessary on them.

I think I'd only get angry if I'm prevented from leaving the situation and given no better alternative to do so. This has never been the case so far.

When I'm really drunk I stumble around and slur my speech like anyone else, but I never lose control of my emotions like that.

Btw, I'm moving this thread to Anything Else. It's off topic for Don Juan Discussion.
 
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Anger = psychosis
If you think about it like that, then that means you loosing it around people when drunk.
 

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Alcohol affects people in different ways. If you get angry when you drink, don't drink.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I really cannot stress enough how badly alcohol in a couple of hours or less can ruin so much of what you have spent your time and hard work in putting together
 
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