"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Alcohol & Controlling Anger?

soulforge

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Duke

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Alcohol is a psychoactive drug, it alters perception and inhibits emotions. Some people become happy, others angry.

I've had a few friends get aggressive once they got drunk and the slightest thing could bring out their anger.

Alcohol usually makes me horny.
 

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Nope. I don't drink a lot but the times I do have a bit much to drink I don't get angry. I just get tired and more relaxed.
 

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I am not normally an angry drunk because i am normally not angry but it can amplify the emotions i am having probably due to limiting their inhibition so if there is something i am angry about, i may feel more angry
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I just become mostly happy. If someone intentionally tries to piss me off I derive a sense of power from not letting them influence my good mood.

Drunk or sober, I realized years ago that anger is nothing more than self-inflicted suffering, it's painful. I love myself, I have no desire to cause my own suffering. I control my emotions and I can choose not to do that to myself. Besides, it usually doesn't solve anything and will probably just escalate the problem.

I go out drinking to have fun, I focus on having fun. So when an obstacle to fun appears I take the path of least resistance and providing resistance by getting angry isn't the answer. If I can just walk away then I'll do that instead. If I'm at a bar and someone gets aggressive I go notify the bouncers/bar staff.

Drunk or sober, I feel no need to prove myself, particularly not towards strangers. I don't care about idiots, they're not worth my anger. They're not worth anything to me so the last thing I'll do is waste more energy than absolutely necessary on them.

I think I'd only get angry if I'm prevented from leaving the situation and given no better alternative to do so. This has never been the case so far.

When I'm really drunk I stumble around and slur my speech like anyone else, but I never lose control of my emotions like that.

Btw, I'm moving this thread to Anything Else. It's off topic for Don Juan Discussion.
 
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Anger = psychosis
If you think about it like that, then that means you loosing it around people when drunk.
 

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Alcohol affects people in different ways. If you get angry when you drink, don't drink.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I really cannot stress enough how badly alcohol in a couple of hours or less can ruin so much of what you have spent your time and hard work in putting together
 
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