"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Alcohol & Controlling Anger?

soulforge

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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The Duke

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Alcohol is a psychoactive drug, it alters perception and inhibits emotions. Some people become happy, others angry.

I've had a few friends get aggressive once they got drunk and the slightest thing could bring out their anger.

Alcohol usually makes me horny.
 

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Nope. I don't drink a lot but the times I do have a bit much to drink I don't get angry. I just get tired and more relaxed.
 

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I am not normally an angry drunk because i am normally not angry but it can amplify the emotions i am having probably due to limiting their inhibition so if there is something i am angry about, i may feel more angry
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I just become mostly happy. If someone intentionally tries to piss me off I derive a sense of power from not letting them influence my good mood.

Drunk or sober, I realized years ago that anger is nothing more than self-inflicted suffering, it's painful. I love myself, I have no desire to cause my own suffering. I control my emotions and I can choose not to do that to myself. Besides, it usually doesn't solve anything and will probably just escalate the problem.

I go out drinking to have fun, I focus on having fun. So when an obstacle to fun appears I take the path of least resistance and providing resistance by getting angry isn't the answer. If I can just walk away then I'll do that instead. If I'm at a bar and someone gets aggressive I go notify the bouncers/bar staff.

Drunk or sober, I feel no need to prove myself, particularly not towards strangers. I don't care about idiots, they're not worth my anger. They're not worth anything to me so the last thing I'll do is waste more energy than absolutely necessary on them.

I think I'd only get angry if I'm prevented from leaving the situation and given no better alternative to do so. This has never been the case so far.

When I'm really drunk I stumble around and slur my speech like anyone else, but I never lose control of my emotions like that.

Btw, I'm moving this thread to Anything Else. It's off topic for Don Juan Discussion.
 
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Anger = psychosis
If you think about it like that, then that means you loosing it around people when drunk.
 

Bokanovsky

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Any of you guys find it much more difficult to control anger after you have had alcoholic drinks?

I only drink on the weekend, however I have noticed, if I am around someone negative & they do something to annoy me, I can get quite angry about it? (Not in a violent way)

However when I am sober, If someone annoys me, I keep it cool & just remove myself from that person.

I guess this is just the nature of alcohol.
Alcohol affects people in different ways. If you get angry when you drink, don't drink.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Divorced w 3

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I really cannot stress enough how badly alcohol in a couple of hours or less can ruin so much of what you have spent your time and hard work in putting together
 
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